I'll try to keep this short and to the point. I met my wife (32 yo) 6 years ago, and we got married 3 years ago. Together we have 6 kids, and we live a modest life. My wife did not want kids, so having 6 does get to her quite often, but she does very well with it considering the circumstances. She had two kids and I had three kids when we got together. We quickly had a son together to round out our lovely little "Brady Bunch." Anyway, my first marriage did not end well, and I developed the relationship with my current wife at the tail end of my first marriage. She actually was pregnant with our son while I was still married to my 1st wife. I know....that's a horrible way to end one relationship and equally as horrible of a way to start a new relationship. My first marriage was "dead" for about 5 years, me staying in it for the kids, primarily. So, I had thought a lot about what I really was looking for in a relationship. When I met my current wife, I HAD to catch her and make her mine. Well, things were great to begin the relationship. However, I quickly fell back into the rut of focusing on providing for the family, and I did not show her the attention she needs. She tried to tell me about it, but I truly felt that I only have so much time to prepare our older children (the oldest is about to be 13 with three 12 year olds behind her) for the real world. My divorce really messed with my 3 kids from my 1st marriage, so I have put a lot of focus into them. Honestly, I took my wife for granted, never feeling concerned that she would be interested in someone else. Guess I was wrong. She told me last week that she had been flirting with another guy, and she even met him the night before for a drink. This is as far as she says it went, and I believe her. The fact that she told me immediately means the world to me, and I appreciate that. I am not mad at her, nor the other guy. Honestly. I recognize that I should have given her the attention she deserves, and we have learned that my ADD condition may be a major contributor for my behavior. That's what my doctor has said, at least. However, it is MY responsibility to find a way to properly manage my ADD and ensure that I show her the attention she deserves. I know that she wants to work it out with me, and I truly believe that she loves me. There is one major thing that I do not understand nor do I know if it has any significance. She said that she got "a feeling inside her" when he was near. She would get it before he even came into her store or before he called her phone. She "just knew it was him." I asked her if she ever had that feeling with me or anyone else. She says no. Is this "feeling" she got something that I should be worried about? Has anyone else ever had this feeling? I have asked a few women friends and even my mother about this, and nobody has felt such a feeling that they know of. So, I am reaching out to a larger audience. I really do want my marriage to work, and I believe she does, too. I just can't get over this "feeling" right now.