What to believe?

[JJAKIN]

Okay where to begin. I was with my boyfriend for ten months ending at the end of December.  Back in November I found things i shouldn't have on his computer, which led to me finding out he cheated on me at the very beginning, and lied to me about it. I questioned him about it and the entire relationship since back in June. He also insisted that he remained friends with this girl even after my suspicions and the fact what I had found out continued to follow me and hurt me (even if it wasn't true, so i thought til November) But anyways this all led to constant fighting and no trust so we broke up at the end of December. Stupid me kept in contact with him, which didn't make things easy at all.

We decided that we would slowly see how things would work and if it was possible for us to work again. He went to Cancun for 7 days.  I know this was wrong of me, but I guessed his password.  I found a lot of things from when we weren't together and wasn't relevant but still a lot of the things i had found were A LOT of the things he lied to me about, and which were also factors to why we broke up in December. When he returned from Cancun this girl added him and his friend ( who went with him ) to facebook and my ex asked his friend who this girl was. He replied," the girl you slept with", I confronted my ex and he denied it, says his friend was joking and got his friend in the message to say he was joking. Then later in his msges he msgs the girl and says to her that if she recieves a message from a girl not to tell her anything. My ex's friend also stated later in his messages that if my ex if he had nothing to hide he'd tell the truth. ( and apparently this girl lied to his friend saying they got together. that's why his friend said they slept together) Anyways... i confronted my ex about messaging that girl and he told me that is was because he doesn't like people talking behind his back. ********?

I feel like an idiot... and he swears he didn't get together with anyone. It scares me because he lies so well. After a week of not talking we started hanging out again and well I don't know. I just need to make a firm decision if this guy even deserves me in his life.

[mami1323]

I was cheated on and decided to work it out.  Although, I was with my fiance for 5 1/2 years and had a child with him, so keeping our family together was the most important thing.  You have only been with him 10 months and it's already filled with cheating and drama.  You have to see if whether this relationship is worth holding onto.  From what I see here, it doesn't look very promising.  I think if you are uncomfortable with what you have seen and can't move past everything, and see that he's still doing things behind your back, you need to let him go and move on with your life.  This is IMO of course and you can make your own decisions.

[pcarsey]

I think you just have to go with your intuition or guy instinct. If you feel like there are issues he is not being honest about then that is a problem. Would you really want to know the truth, and if you did, will you be able to forgive him and move on? Maybe ask him what he really wants in the relationship, because if he wants something from you, or nothing from you but is afraid to tell you, then that could be why he is doing these behaviors.

How old are you two?