What to do about this guy?

[dano777]

K so last night I had a date set up with a guy. I met him online and we were going to go for supper which was his idea. Then last night came and he said he was really tired cause he had to work a bunch of night shifts in which I understood and he said another time. Anyways, I carried on and went out to the bar with my friends. So, I felt this guy staring at me and looked behind me and it was him. So he walked away and then came over 2 minutes later. He said hi and then my friend told him to get lost. I am a very forgivable person and felt bad. Anyways then he started texting me saying he was sorry and he wasn' an ******* and that he was scared and didn't realize how pretty i was. He kept texting me and I was like whatever. Then he came over and danced with me but my friend wouldn't let me but she finally did. After that I left the bar and came home and went to bed. he texted me about 10 times and even called a couple times telling me how sorry he was and that he really ****** up and didn't realize I was so pretty. Then I woke up and he texted me saying "how much do you hate me" and another one saying "that I don't know him" or something so I texted him back being I don't hate you and stuff. He replied back and we talked about it and i forgave him.  Then he said if you ever want to hangout or watch a movie or want a booty call let me know.  I told him I wasn't looking for sex and then he replied he was just kidding.  I didn't reply and he sent me 3 texts to prove he didn't want sex. I don't know what to do, I don't know if its nothing and I should carry on or what. I told him we could watch a movie but only at a movie theater.  I understand that it is scary meeting someone of the internet but then why ask me to go on the date and I am a little upset just tell me you don't want too instead of lying.

[specialmom]

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[penswriter]

Guy sounds like a total creep/psycho. The constantly telling you that he was just was just nervous until he saw how "pretty" you are makes him sound like a real D-bag. The excessive texting and calling screams creepy psycho. He throws up so many red flags I'd be running and screaming in the other direction.

[ConnieG]

I think this sounds like a very bad man!!! I would run away and never look back.
He is very controlling and insecure for texting you so much. And if he wanted to talk to you while you where in the bar, a mature man would have walked up to you, told you friend you wanted to talk, and discuss it right then and there.  An even better man wouldn't lie to get out of going out with you and go out with a friend, he would have been honest and said, tonight I'm going out alone, or with a friend or whatever!.
Controlling men are very scary and potentionally very dangerous. leave him@

[Ashelen]

I would avoid this guy. he's a total creeper and seems to be bad bad news to you. You deserve better....have you tried joining some groups? you go to college, right? I would join some college related groups and meet people that way. Best of luck, and I agree with specialmom...your friend is a keeper.

[specialmom]

I really agree that the immature excessive texting and calling is creepy.  Drunk dialing is a real thing too (as he was in a bar).  He sounds like someone with some issues and I'd make sure that lonliness didn't make me pursue anything with him.

I'm glad to hear you have a good girlfriend though that was trying to look out for you.  Friends like that are keepers.

[TTinKKerBBell]

It almost sounds like he was "stalking" You.  And he was "scared" until he saw how "pretty" You are - and he stressed that at least twice??  And he's afraid to meet You until he sees You are pretty.  And then he texts You about 13 times??  And calls You too??
Red Flags here.
Beware.  Be Aware.

[specialmom]

Yes, I'd start trying to meet people through the things you do rather than online.  This guy told you a lot about himself last night starting with he is shallow and rude.  He's sorry because now he sees you are pretty and he missed out doesn't excuse poor behavior.  If you were a dog, it is okay?  Raise the bar in terms of what you want in a guy.  Otherwise, you will end up with a guy like this.  

Do you have trouble meeting people outside of the internet?

[teko]

I can understand someone chickening out at the last minute, when you meet online. Its so dfferent than meeting someone in person and you never really know what to expect. iow long did you know him online? But what does bother me more is his offhand remark about a booty call. I can only tell you that I am really suspicious of online dating. Maybe its my age and all but there are some pretty scary things happening out there in this world and strange people use the internet to stake out their targets. I thought it strange that he ended up in the same place as you. Did you tell him where you were going? I got a creepy feeling reading your post. You might do better meeting up with people you meet in person and if you do go out with this guy, please restrict it to only places with lots of people until you really get to know and trust him. I am also a firm believer in checking someones past too, you just never know. Be careful.