My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 years. The entire 3 years he has had an addiction to porn and before we even met, he said he had this problem with his last girlfriends. I always thought of it as a guy thing. But I always thought he looked at it a few times a week, until we had a conversation and he looks at porn constantly throughout the day and masterbates everyday while I am at work or in the bedroom. I have walked in on him several times and he denys it, then I mention it another day then he will tell me the truth. He says its very embarrasing for me to walk in on him in the act. I asked him what type of porn turns him on and he says he doesn't have one thing that he looks at everything. He says it has gotten so bad that he feels bad cause he knows it hurts me. Because everytime I'm away from him or I know he is home alone or in a different room, I know he is looking at porn or trying to masterbate. It has gotten to the feeling that I leave because I know he would rather look at porn on the computer and masturbate. We have sex alot. At least 4 times a week. And he tells me he looks at it cause its a release and calmness and he can sleep afterwards. But I don't know how much longer I can take of it because it is destroying our relationship. Because that's all he thinks about and thats all I think about when I think of my bf. He says he's embarrased because I am such a beautiful girl and he's embarrased that he does it when he has me. I can deal with some porn like masturbating every once in a while as I do to. But to do it everyday for about 3 hours is taking a toll on our relationship big time and I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I want to know with your experience will things get better or will I always feel like this and should accept his porn addiction, or should I just move on.
For example: Porn has gotten so bad that he has stayed up till ike 4 in the morning and slept on the couch because he was looking up porn and masturbating and now he can't get that hard because he masturbates too much. He has told me now it takes him about 2 hours to find something erotic to masturbate to, to get him off. And also, he has hinted several times for me to "oh go run to the store, or go run and do this errand, I'll stay here. And he says this stuff cause I'm hanging out with him and he feels the urge to look up porn and masturbate. So he would say stuff to get me to leave the house and I finally relized what he was doing and said no. So now I go into the bedroom everytime he is on the computer cause I know he would rather masturbate then hang with me. It just hurts me so much That he spends every minute that he is not with me trying to masturbate. Even when we have sex everyday, he is still looking at porn to get off. I know porn is a man's thing and its normal, but this is not normal, he has admitted to me twice in our 3 year relationship that he is addicted to porn. And I don't know what to do, It's not fair for me to give him an ultimatium to stop, but I can't deal with it anymore. What is your oppinion on masturbation and addiction to porn. (Another thing. I have found sexual emails from other people and friends, take it during our relationship 4 people came up to me telling me that he has cheated on me. NO actual proof, just talk. But then I have seen some emails that made me sick. One to his bestfriend, So I called her and she told me he is constantly hitting on her and paying her money (cause she needs money and is broke) to send him dirty emails. I was disgusted. I had the email in front of me and he still denied everything. He used to be on sex chat rooms which I stopped and now all he goes on is Porn sites, from what I see. So I have had a history with him with this, and it all started before he was even dating me so I dont know what to do. I want to stay, But I don't know if I can deal with this for the rest of my life. because it is a daily struggle that is constantly in my mind. Now he changed his work hours so now he gets off 5 hours before me, and I know what he does in that 5 hours, he told me the other day. So I felt much better when he was still working when I got off cause I got to beat him home. Some one please direct me.