Okay, So, I've Been Dating This Guy For Two Years Five Months, & 12 Days.. We Recently Got In Engaged On March.12th 2009 [I Couldn't Be Happier] Well, On That Friday [Engaged On Thursday] He Came Over And Had Dinner With Who Is Now His Family As Well.. After, We Were Going To Go And Tell His Parents [About The Engagement] .. Coming Down To My Room So I Could Finish Getting Ready, Something Just Didn't Seem Right, Before I Knew It, He Was Walking Back And Fourth In My Room Repeating "I Can't Do This, I Can't Do This", At First I Thought He Was Talking About Telling His Parents. Tho' In The Back Of My Mind, I Was Thinking "What If He's Talking About This Engagement?" . . . I Sat Him Down, And Calmly Asked "What Is It You Can't Do?". . After His Intro, He Said "This Engagement", I Was Completely Taken Back, Because Here We Are Almost Two Years & A Half Into This Relationship, He Had Done Nothing But Express His Over & Beyond Feelings For Me, He Even Told His Ex [Who I Know, We're Cool] That He Wanted To Marry Me. We Happen To Be At The Same Luncheon, Where She Told Me This, A Week Before We Got Engaged.. Now, Not Even 24hours Into Our New Commitment, He's Telling Me He "Can't Do This", Those Reading This Must Understand My Confusion.
He Said That "Maybe We Rushed Into This To Fast", I'm Looking Completely Dumb Founded, Having Not A Clue What To Say In Regards To This All.. Pain, Emotions Coming Over Me, I'm Repeating Aloud, "Your Breaking Our Engagement?", Tears Filling My Eyes, Questions Clouding My Head, I'm Thinking, "OMG! How Am I Gon'na Tell My Family & Friends, We're Not Getting Married??" .. "What Will My Two Faced Sister Have To Say In Return & Behind My Back??" He's Saying "Your Seeing It In Black & White", I'm Stating Facts, & Hitting Him With Truth..
I Can Tell I'm Making Him Think. He Let's The Cat Out The Bag "My Parents Don't Want Us To Be Together".. Then My World Picks Up Speeds In Coming Down Before My Eyes. None Of This Makes Sense To Me..
Finally! Getting To The Bottom Of Things, The Problem We Faced Was, He Couldn't See His Self Value, Though We Had Our Fights And Break Ups, He Pressed For A Resolution, Never Letting Me Go, No Matter How Long We Had Parted, Never Losing Hope, Even When Hope Seemed To Be Gone, On To The Next Man. We Came Right Back. I Asked Him "Why Would You Keep Coming Back Then?? Months Would Pass Without Word From One Another, I Know You Know, I Had Started Up All Over Again, In The Times You Knew I Was Seeing One Else, That Didn't Stop You From Coming Back,You Never Once Stopped & Asked Yourself, "What Do I Have To Offer That This Guy She's With Can't? Or What Makes Me Different & Better Then The Guy She Has Now?" All This Would Help Him See Self Worth. I Didn't Give Up! I Wasn't About To Let This Engagement Go Without A Fight! Because It Is Based Off Our Commitment To Each Other! He's My Life! The Air I Breath! The Heart To My Body.
[Think You Guys Got The Point]
Later That Night, I Called Him Up.. I Told Him My Heart Felt Emotions. From What He Said I "Helped Show" Him His "Self Worth".. That He "Didn't Know The Little Things" He "Does Is What Means The Most" To Me. He Picked Himself Up, Said "Sorry" More Times Then I Remember, Said "We're In This Together", He Wasn't Leaving, Never Planned On To, That He "Needs Me", Just All This Sweet Stuff That I Remember Him Stating When He Said He "Couldn't See His Life Without Me", Now, I Feel We're Fine, He's In Los Angeles Right Now For Spring Break, [That's Been Planned For Awhile, Other Wise He'd Be Here With Me] This Up Coming Sunday, We're Telling His Parents. He Said He's "Sure About This And Ready".
I'm Writing This Because Tho' He's My Fiance, I'm Worried That He Might Fall Back Into The Place He Was In On Friday Night. What If He Does?? I Know That Means I Have My Answer, I Need To Move On, And Stop This Whole Nonsense, And Of Course Don't Look Back. But This Is My Life, I Want Stay On Cloud Nine, But I Want To Be Quite About Telling People I'm Engaged Because What He Backs Out?? I Know I'll Feel Better Once His Parents Know. Idk [I Don't Know] What Do You Guys Think?? Should I Continue To Stay In Happy Bliss Or Should I Stand On Guard Till Sunday And Let It Play Out From There?? I Should Trust Him, 'Cause If There Isn't Trust There Isn't Anything, So When He Says "I'm Sorry, If I Ever Start Acting Stupid Like That Again, Just Hit Up Side My Head, I'm Ready, I'm Here, I Wan'na Make Sure That Your Ready, And Sure, It's Better To Get All The Jitters Out Now, So That Way When Sunday Comes We Can Just Walk In Sit Down With My Parents And Let Them Know", I Know I Should Believe All That..
Please I Need Some Input.. Sorry So Long, Thank You!