What's going on??

[wonder1271]

My husband and i have been married for 9 years. We separated for about a year three years ago but got back together. He was cheating.... Everything was fine until..... a couple of nights ago we were having sex and he "pulled out" before ejaculation. Now, i have had my tubes tied for 11 years, so i'm sure he wasn't concerned about me getting pregnant. Our sex life has been fine, we haven't really had any major arguments, but pulling out when it's NEVER been done before is strange. I'm concerned he may be cheating again.  Of course he says that's not the case, and i don't have any other reason to speculate. He's home every night. He gets off work before i do so there is opportunity.  Am i being paronoid????

[Jaybay]

... or, maybe he just wanted to watch the "fireworks" this time?  :-)

[mayflowers]

Well, that's a little strange.   I guess you could see if he does it again and then try to have a frank conversation with him about your suspicions.  He needs to be honest with you if he is cheating again. Just b/c he comes home at the normal time and doesn't go out at night doesn't mean things aren't happening while he's "at work".  I don't want to scare you, but people have been known to hook up at lunch time.  Really, why would he pull out unless he was holding back or maybe afraid of giving you an STD.  

Go with your gut feeling about it all.

[wonder1271]

I did and he said he was just "looking out" for me because i had just taken a shower. I have taken a shower PLENTY of times before sex and he has never done that. So needless to say that excuse doesn't really fit.

[mayflowers]

Did you ask him why he felt he had to pull out?