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When he says he calls but doesn't
Ok, so I was wondering what does it mean when a man says he will call you back but doesn't. This guy I have been talking to for three weeks or so says he will call and doesn't. I got a text mess. yesterday morning saying hello and a call at 2:30 but I called him back and said I was working and couldn't talk I would call him back. Then I call after work and leave it at that no mess left, and then text him goodnite before I go to bed. Today - I have heard nothing. SO what does that mean? Just wondering
I think I should of being a man seriously ha.. Im so laid back its unbelievable, I just go with the flow.. and get all the ones who take the ****. Some say it's what you make it, but you can only try and make it with so many fellows without getting a little discouraged probably explains the neurosis theory
You have a strong point there Sam. You are right about the respect thing.
Thanks anyway though, I'm starting to think i'm better off single anyway.
Happy New Year best wishes
Thanks anyway though, I'm starting to think i'm better off single anyway.
Happy New Year best wishes
As a guy can I give all of you a quote? "Never blame on malice, what can be blamed on human stupidity."
It is my experience as a guy, that a guy who calls a lot right way like a love struck teen doesn't get treated with a lot of respect long term. Plus as much as cosmo makes it sound otherwise we are very much family animals and it is the holidays.
Perhaps some of the neurosis could wait until after the holidays and just take things one day at a time until then?
It is my experience as a guy, that a guy who calls a lot right way like a love struck teen doesn't get treated with a lot of respect long term. Plus as much as cosmo makes it sound otherwise we are very much family animals and it is the holidays.
Perhaps some of the neurosis could wait until after the holidays and just take things one day at a time until then?
I am going through kind of the same thing at the moment, so I feel ya...
To cut a long story short...
Get's talking to this guy mutually through a friend about a month and a half ago, he calls like every night, and he's older (I'm 23, he's 32) I kind of feel like i'm getting close as some may would, find out we got lots to talk about blah blah, i've met him once in this time and it was for a coffee and we were talking for hours, i felt a connection and he claimed that he'd like to get to know me better, i just played things cool, letting do most of the footwork etc, christmas eve he said he would come to see me so we could chat about things, as claimed that he couldn't believe how much he liked me and that I was the nicest lady he'd met in a long while etc. and I was thrilled at this so i carried on playing it cool saying 'yeah sure maybe I could cook you dinner' being polite and all that...
Well he didn't come up and it wasn't until i contacted him to ask him why at 1.00am and he claimed that his relatives were having a crisis (lives with his cousin and her partner) I then though oh god isn't he interested so i asked him if he was interested in me eventually feeling like an idiot for doing this, he text me the day after calling me beautiful wishing me a merry xmas, and that he couldn't come because his cousin had a miscarriage, so i apologised loads felt complete ***** at this point, and he said it was fine and that he'd come see me the day after boxing day, or the 28th as he reckoned he was decorating that day so I thought he may be tired so i'll perhaps leave it till 28th.. so I wait again for two days, and nothing....
By which time I'm scratching my bloody head thinking eh? ... So I text again saying 'look if you aren't interested then I'd rather know, or if personal things are getting on top, maybe I could help, i'm a little bothered as I just that you and I we were getting on quite well... nothing for another 7 hours grrr so i text saying 'I don't understand whats going on, you aren't giving out the signals of someone who likes someone' I then get a text morning after, from a different number (cousins partner) saying sorry for not being able to contact me due to his phone not working (he told me he dropped it in the bath a week ago ) and that he tried to find my house when I invited him up and he ended up getting lost so he had to go back again...
so again me being me, I said sorry for getting the wrong end of the stick and wished him a good evening if he was going out anywhere good. and he text back saying 'I do want to see you, and I will try ring tommorow'...
My god i'm utterly confused.... This is the first guy who has ever treated me with any kind of respect in the beginning, as we haven't done anything yet apart from kiss and hold hands a few times...
I am totally totally confused
Please help me?
Sorry about the long story afterall...
xx
To cut a long story short...
Get's talking to this guy mutually through a friend about a month and a half ago, he calls like every night, and he's older (I'm 23, he's 32) I kind of feel like i'm getting close as some may would, find out we got lots to talk about blah blah, i've met him once in this time and it was for a coffee and we were talking for hours, i felt a connection and he claimed that he'd like to get to know me better, i just played things cool, letting do most of the footwork etc, christmas eve he said he would come to see me so we could chat about things, as claimed that he couldn't believe how much he liked me and that I was the nicest lady he'd met in a long while etc. and I was thrilled at this so i carried on playing it cool saying 'yeah sure maybe I could cook you dinner' being polite and all that...
Well he didn't come up and it wasn't until i contacted him to ask him why at 1.00am and he claimed that his relatives were having a crisis (lives with his cousin and her partner) I then though oh god isn't he interested so i asked him if he was interested in me eventually feeling like an idiot for doing this, he text me the day after calling me beautiful wishing me a merry xmas, and that he couldn't come because his cousin had a miscarriage, so i apologised loads felt complete ***** at this point, and he said it was fine and that he'd come see me the day after boxing day, or the 28th as he reckoned he was decorating that day so I thought he may be tired so i'll perhaps leave it till 28th.. so I wait again for two days, and nothing....
By which time I'm scratching my bloody head thinking eh? ... So I text again saying 'look if you aren't interested then I'd rather know, or if personal things are getting on top, maybe I could help, i'm a little bothered as I just that you and I we were getting on quite well... nothing for another 7 hours grrr so i text saying 'I don't understand whats going on, you aren't giving out the signals of someone who likes someone' I then get a text morning after, from a different number (cousins partner) saying sorry for not being able to contact me due to his phone not working (he told me he dropped it in the bath a week ago ) and that he tried to find my house when I invited him up and he ended up getting lost so he had to go back again...
so again me being me, I said sorry for getting the wrong end of the stick and wished him a good evening if he was going out anywhere good. and he text back saying 'I do want to see you, and I will try ring tommorow'...
My god i'm utterly confused.... This is the first guy who has ever treated me with any kind of respect in the beginning, as we haven't done anything yet apart from kiss and hold hands a few times...
I am totally totally confused
Please help me?
Sorry about the long story afterall...
xx
If I've learned anything recently, guys don't call. It's reality. And honestly, there are SOOOO many other fish in the sea. I have a hard time too, not getting obsessive about looking to see if he's called.. and I have my friends help me so I don't text him or call.. It's just really hard because I think that women have become more dominant lately so it's hard to know if a guy is expecting that.. then they would think that the woman would be calling and that he wouldn't have to.. Not all guys are old fashioned like that.. but I prefer old fashioned.
Either way, just follow your heart. Sounds like he has something else going on, and it could very well have nothing to do with you..
Bottom line: wait until someone comes along who knows they want to be with YOU.. and they tell you that. :)
Either way, just follow your heart. Sounds like he has something else going on, and it could very well have nothing to do with you..
Bottom line: wait until someone comes along who knows they want to be with YOU.. and they tell you that. :)
I feel bad for you that he has not called, but you are making the right choice to move on. You deserve better. There is nothing wrong with you, he is the one with the issues. Go out and find you someone better.
Well I haven't gotten a phone call in 6 days so I am moving on. I feel stupid for even waiting. I called his phone but his number doesn't work anymore. I waited five days to call. Oh well. Maybe something is wrong with me :-)
i think when i a guy doesnt call you for a couple days is because he is just having fun or busy.....when guys want smething form you...they will call you.....thats why its good not to wait around for that phone call because while your waiting he is out having fun while your getting all tied up......just keep busy and focus on yourself......freinds are always gonna b there...but talking to them everyday and every minute can kind of get annoying.....i find it when you wait a few days to talk to your partner it builds up trust within eachother......anyone fill me in or have a different point of view?
He called last night and this morning I texted him and he texted back it is nice to have someone who cares :-)
i know! thats always the way i was too, so i know how you feel. it really hasn't been thant long though! its been barely 1 full day without a phone call. i wouldnt play the "he's just not that into you" card just yet. wait a day or two, then move on. good luck!
I agree with jml. This guy isn't into you. Stop wasting your time waiting for his call.
If they don't call you is they just are not that into you. I think I would take it as a sign and move on.
Girl -
I'm like that. It is hard not to call. I put my phone away. You know how it is when you like someone :-) My kids keep me busy :-)
I'm like that. It is hard not to call. I put my phone away. You know how it is when you like someone :-) My kids keep me busy :-)
i don't know. it hasnt been that long really. i mean one day, if that. maybe he is having a busy day and hasnt had the chance? i would give it a little more time before you get worried about it. i think when a guy isnt that into you, its usual pretty obvious. guys aren't too hard to read. just dont call him again until he calls you. it may be hard to do, but you'll know when you get that call if it was worth waiting for on not. right? good luck!
I get confused as to why men do this. Maybe he doesn't like me. The whole dating thing is so hard for me. Maybe I should just relax - i mean if he wanted to call he would right? I mostly would like to hear from men and just wonder why they say they will call and don't.
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