When white women go black ...they never go back" ? i.e.white woman having sex with a black guy becomes compelling ...is it a the black white stark contrast?Is it the claimed extra armoury? Is it physical stamina? Is it a deep inter DNA shake up? Is it scent differential? What is it????
I've heard the saying but that is most certainly not true. I've had friends who have dated people of different race and it was never some magic that kept them there. Some people are just attracted to those that are different from them while others aren't.
Thanks heather.Have you had personal experiences you might wish to share?
I know for me it has been the converse.I am of mixed race and have tended to gravitate towards white women after engaging in sex that I find potential for a fruitful relationship.I find in general white women are more expressive and there is less of the abuse and scrounging that i get from non white women , especially if from third world nations.I find more creativity and less inhibition from white chics.My personal preference is for those who have a deep bronze tan... i guess its just personal especially in sexual terms...and it kind of closes in the colour differential gap as I am of a similar tan.But the differences in colour can be a short term kick!
Everyone has an attraction or attractions to several people in their lifetime. Color I dont think would have much to do with it. I would hope people look for someone based on a little bit more than sexual fantasy. Whatever kicks u I reckon.
Valid point teco. Colour or any aspect of attraction has a lot to do with becoming attracted and the sex that evolves with it.Keeping the attraction however, I believe is the matter concerned with other structures, like personality, social integration, economics, ...even politics (whether or not you are allowed to marry or whether the in-laws accept you two or reject and sabotage your efforts).
The basic formula for guys is physical attraction first and emotional bonding later.For women it seems to be the converse.The proverb Men are from Mars and Women from Venus holds some validity don't you all think?
I'll just shut this contentious thread down by boring everyone to tears with the reality of interracial dating/ marriage.
I worked with a guy (a Black doctoral student) at my university who did research on the realities of interracial marriage. Here's what he found, in a nutshell. Women in general try to marry "up" economically, and men in general try to marry the prettiest girl they can attract and keep. That's it. Exquisitely beautiful white blondes can write their ticket as far as the level of wealth they can achieve with Black superstars. We can all name some. Lower economic status white women with peroxide hair and too much weight can marry up economically with a Black man who has a little money and wants a white woman.
The dynamics are different with white men/black women, and it's a much rarer combo. In those cases both tend to be higher educated than the population, and more involved in the community than average.
I could only find the most passing reference to his research here:
Anyway, there are individual differences. Black men do seem to have decided they have more sexual prowess than white men, and say things like that pretty frequently, but it's not born out in statistics and trends.
I don't think marry to use men at all. When you agree to carry their children and love them forever, you're not "using" anyone. In the past, this was just considered solid good sense. To marry someone who's responsible and capable of providing for a house hold. Men weren't typically bound by that - they had expectations that they would provide (at least the majority) of the income, and were free to choose a partner who was greatly sexually attractive to him - the most attractive one he could keep. And then of course, after the initial openness to the person takes place, there has to be chemistry and love and caring ways. It's complex.
Things have changed very very recently - the last 40 years or so in the history of human civilization - where women have nearly equal power in the market place, so the mate selection process may change. But in the past, it was foolish for a woman who marry a man who wasn't at least her social/economic equal, best to move up a bit. That's not greed. That's just solid sense.
This thread title has been out there for days, and no one yet has stopped by to say yeah Black men are magic dynamos between the sheets. That's just generalizing. There are great and lousy lovers in every neighborhood in the world.
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