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Who Do I Choose?

My sort of ex boyfriend (lets call him person A) who I never really dated broke my heart last summer. But I loved him, more so than anyone ever before and still now. But my current boyfriend (lets call him Person B) who I love (or atleast I think I love him) knows about Person A and our Sort-Of-Relationship, and now Person A has come back and he's saying he wants to have intercourse and I know I still love him, he's on my mind almost all the time. And I feel terrible, because when Person A asked if I had lost my virginity or not, I couldn't answer yes, but I didn't want to tell him no, so I just told him I wasn't going to answer. And then he did something extraordinary, he said alright. He didn't push me to do something I didn't want to, unlike Person B. The only reason I had intercourse with Person B is because.. Well, I suppose there are more than one reason. But one was because he wouldn't stop asking me so I did it to make him stop asking. But now he still keeps asking. But Person B doesn't like that I'm talking to Person A again, and he knows that Person A wants to have intercourse. But Person B thinks that Person A is only joking. And Person A doesn't know that I've told Person B that Person A wants to have intercourse with me. Person A does, however, know that I am in a relationship with Person B. But Person A, and my best friend who I have told all of this, want me to cheat on Person B. I really don't want to mess anything up with Person B. I love person B. But I love Person A more, I think. Person A is like God to me. Which is strange because I'm an atheist. But, for an atheist to have a god is pretty unbelievable. I can't believe how great Person A is. He's so great he's like a God to an Atheist. I just can't believe it.
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I think you could do that, you could tell A that you moved on but Im thinking yer not gonna do that. I think you are gonna go ahead and see A, and end up losing them both in the long run. Otherwise, you would forever wonder how it would have turned out. AND, if you cared that much for B, you would not even be in the situation you find yourself. You would have already settled it. Good luck.
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Thankyou for that, I never would have been able to come up with an answer that made so much sense. Since A is coming back to see me on spring break, B doesnt want me to even talk to him. But B doesnt know that after I wasnt on the phone with him anymore I called A, and we talked for a reeeeally long time.. I dont want to lose B but I also dont want to lose A. I think you're right, I should just tell A that Ive moved on but that I did care about him previously, (but should I tell him I still do?) but he missed his chance.
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if there was a like button id push it for specialoms response.. its right on target!!!  Person A sees that ur happy now and it tears hima part cause in reality he didnt want u, he wanted to u suffer and be in pain.. then he realized u were happy and over him in a small way, and wants to take that from u.. Ive been there.. dont do it!!!!
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I so totally agree with the above. It really is a no brainer once you disect it a little bit.
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Okay, so this is a classic scenario.  You let A know you cared/loved him and he did not go for it when he had a chance.  Then you move on to B and things are going fine.  Hm . . . A notices.  A then comes back for "sex" (oh great . . .   gotta love a guy that lets you know he wants just that from you).  What should you do?  

Stay with B.  A just wants booty and subconsciously is trying to break you up because he enjoyed your 'wanting' him.  It fed his ego.  He wants to prove you like him best . . . a man thing and creepy.  Don't fall for it.

Stick with a guy that wants more than sex from you and that is on the up and up.  
good luck
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