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Why won't he let me in his room?
i've been with my boyfriend for a while now and we are both very close to one another, but he will not let me see his room. i've asked why and he's told me that he doesn't like girls in his room, and he wont even let his family in. this somewhat concerns me, only because i feel like he is shutting me out of a part of him. i mean he's told me that he's only ever let one girl in there and i guess im kind of jelous. i mean i can't think of any reason why he wouldn't want me to go in there i mean were too close for anything to bother me so i just want to know why and if someone could please give me some advice it would be much apreciated. thanks.
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189069 tn?1323405738
That's a tough one. It could be that he's just shy about his room. Maybe it's not tidy enough and he's embarrassed. It's hard to say if he's hiding something or not, but you know him better and of course it depends on how much you trust him. Have you asked him why it is that he doesn't like people in there?
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yeah i have asked him and he said i dont know i just don't like girls in my room.
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189069 tn?1323405738
I think he might just be shy about it or likes some kind of privacy. When I was younger, my room wasn't the cleanest room around, LOL and I wouldn't like my friends in there either. Talk to him some more about it and tell him your concerns that he might be hiding something. Maybe his parents don't allow girls in there and he's too shy to say it.
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13167 tn?1327197724
lyssi,  your post is very cryptic.   How old are you?

Is he a child?  Maybe his parents don't allow girls in his room  and he's embarrassed to tell you that and so he pretends he doesn't want you there.  

When you say you aren't invited to his "room",  you are clearly not an adult couple with adult options.
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684030 tn?1415615923
His room is probably a "dump" and he's embrassed; and, he doesn't feel like cleaning it up.  
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I agree with RockRose.  That is exactly how I read it.  Respect the mans right to privacy.!  Why would you NEED to go into his room anyway?
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My man is the same. Cept i have not pried foran answer to why i cant see his room. I feel a lil discouraged in weather i should tryst him but i also KNOW he would Never intentionally hurt me. I was told its not a sexual reason. So im curious as hell but i care about him and dont want him uncomfortable. Im keeping the hope maybe someday he will open that last door to his life for me, if not then it must be a pretty good secret and i might just take my leave at some point. I dont want him to not fully tryst me anything and everything as he should. Time will tell..
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973741 tn?1342346373
Hi Juss1689.  Welcome to the forum. You've placed your question on an older thread---  you may have a better discussion about your own situation if you start your own thread.  Hope it all works out!
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