I'm not usually one to post on websites, but I have been in a world of confusion lately. Over two years ago, I moved 2500 miles away to a large city for an internship after I finished grad school. I left my entire family, whom I'm very close to and all my friends. I can't complain much...the experience has been wonderful for me, and has really changed my life. About a year ago, I started thinking about moving back closer to my family. It was never my intention to stay here forever...but then I met someone. This guy has been nothing but wonderful to me, and we love each other. The past year with him has been great, and I can honestly say he's the first guy that I've ever "loved." I really thought for a while this guy could be the one...we've met each other's families, and he moved in with me several months ago. Everything has been absolutely wonderful, but there is one sticking issue I have with my boyfriend: FAMILY. He told me early on in our relationship that he doesn't know if he ever wants to get married. I'm 28 and he's almost 30. We both have parents that have been very happily married for over 30 years...which makes me wonder why he views marriage so negatively. His parents only live about 10 hours away and he NEVER visits them - even on holidays. In fact, he hasn't driven to see them in several years, but they do drive out to see him every few months. I'm very close to my family, and try to see them as often as I can. Before I met him, I was going back to see my family about every 3 - 4 months. I went back home for Christmas to see my family last week, while he sat at our apartment alone. He also seemed upset that I went home and didn't stay with him. He's been asking me lately if I'm going to do this every year, or if I will stay with him on holidays. The thing is, I can't imagine not spending the holidays with my family and I know they feel the same way. I just don't understand his reasoning, because I've met his parents and sister, and they seem like a very tight knit unit. They celebrate Christmas as a family, but my boyfriend chooses not to participate. He also told me he's going to ask his parents not to come visit us as often, which really breaks my heart. I honestly don't get it, and ever since I came back from visiting my family last week, I'm really thinking about ending our relationship. I don't want to have to justify visiting my family to him. I've missed my family terribly the past two years, and now I'm trying to find a job closer to them. I haven't told my boyfriend this, but I think I need to. Please help...I feel terrible about doing this to him, but my family comes first, and I need to be happy.