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Your b/f is very depressed. He probably has problems at home, school, etc. that he is not talking to anyone about (holding it inside) and he really needs to talk to someone about it (school counselor, this website has a forum for teen depression or maybe even you), but this is not your fault. Tell him that you are there to just support him and if ever what's to talk you are there, but he needs to take the first step to become well again.
If you feel that he is suicidal, it's important to talk to his mom immediately. Teen depression can lead to suicide if not treated properly and usually, a person who attempts suicide does not have the necessary coping skills to what in reality is a temporary situation. In other words, this too shall pass with time an patience.
Depression is very treatble, so if you feel he might harm himself, you can take action, by talking privately to him mom or someone who will listen to you. Mom can get him the helps that he needs, by taking him to a doctor who will probably prescribe antidepressants, which will bring him back balance in his life. He seems to love you and I'm glad he has someone to support him, but to not take this on by yourself, if you seem potential harm, tell him mom or parents immedately and tell them confidentially.
Good luck
You do not know my situation in life, how mature I am or anything about me so I believe that you have no right to say this.
I have had a few people say this and it annoys me a lot. They have no idea what I am like and for all they know I could be more mature than them or have more life experience in some situations.
You should watch who you say this too because it can upest some people a lot and if they are depressed you do not know the affect this may have.
but now he has been fine for a while, well ever since i wrote this, and when i really think about it it doesnt last very long when hes depressed and i have spoken to him about it and he doesnt think he is depressed. These things have been spread over a maybe 4-6 month period of time, is there any chance maybe he's not depressed?
We also considered the idea he may be bipolar.
with depression. There is medication that can balance his brain imbalance and he can can live life as if nothing hapenned, but, it's beyond what you can help him with besides simply listening or tell him that a regular physician can he. Really, it only takes a doctors visit. Good luck.
I just have to comment also about taking drugs for depression, I've known people who have taken drugs for it and it's helped them wonderfully, but for me it made my depression worse and made me pretty much crazy. I was only on them for 2 1/2 months and they just completely messed me up, my mom made the comment(later on in life) that i acted like i was bipolar on them. I mean COMPLETE mood changes in seconds. i'd go from extremely happy to very angry, to extremely sad at the littlest thing. One time we went out to eat(with my mom/sis/stepdad and i was 15 at the time) and i ordered a side salad with my meal and asked for no tomatoes and then i found one little tiny one in it and I FLIPPED OUT! My mom had to force me into the bathroom because I was so angry and making such a scene. It was like I couldn't control my emotions which scared all of us. After that my mom took me off of the drugs and had a very good talk with my doctor about what happened. I still suffered from depression after the drug but after not dealing with those mood swings I was A LOT better. Anyway long story lol, but make sure if he does get a drug or anything to help him cope he knows exactly what he's getting in to. And of course not all cases will be like mine like i said previously, but i was crazy for a time lol