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Wtf is his problem
I cut off communicating for a couple of days with my boyfriend, to give us each the chance to rejuvenate since we were beginning to clash. Needless to say we reconnected and he totally flipped and misinterpreted my vibe or mood through text and decided to call it quits and that he didn't need my mood changes in his life. Totally caught off guard, and once I told him maybe it's you who's being moody hours later maybe your right I love. I thought maybe some other female had him feeling empty emotionally and physically since he texted that's what he felt. I packed the items he's given me and mailing them off tomorrow. His behavior was totally inappropriate for a 20 year old. What do you think?
I would like to comment, but honestly, you're kind of all over the place. It's hard to understand what you're saying,...are you now saying HE had to change? You're still together?
Most times in a relationship, communication breakdown will lead to disaster. Sounds like you should have been communicating with each other MORE, not less. Also, it's seldom just one person's fault as to why things didn't work out.
You'd be wise to learn from this, learn how your actions contrinuted to this situation, and acknowledge what parts were on him, that you had little control over. Best thing you can do is learn from the past, so you don't repeat it in the future. Best of luck to you, hon.
Most times in a relationship, communication breakdown will lead to disaster. Sounds like you should have been communicating with each other MORE, not less. Also, it's seldom just one person's fault as to why things didn't work out.
You'd be wise to learn from this, learn how your actions contrinuted to this situation, and acknowledge what parts were on him, that you had little control over. Best thing you can do is learn from the past, so you don't repeat it in the future. Best of luck to you, hon.
I admit that my mood caused a drastic drift between the relationship, this was no spur of the moment feeling. My reasons or explanation is that I began to think about more than I forgot. Our relationship has never been a fairytale. Preventing our relationship from spirling out of control or hearing the words "I don't want to this relationship anymore", I allowed us to have time to ourselves. Needless to say as always we communicated and discussed the issues that was bothering me. In this lifetime WE all will experience hurt in some sort mines came into effect when I became raptured or shall I say consumed with his happiness that my geniuneness was being abused and taken for granted.
Obviously my boyfriend and I have been together for quite some time and like other couples we know what pushes the others button, me stating that I would mail his items back wasn't going to take place at least I like to think it wouldn't. Our relationship has suffered because of his behavior towards me in the past which has been forgiven. His past ways overshadows who he's trying to become now. Call it what you want being a human being I am entitled to feel however. At any second he could turn into a monster, old habits die hard. It takes more than changing your sleep patterns or the way you eat your food (which these are the changes he's made) that's why their brought forth. He has to change for himself not for me sure you can say he's thinking of you when chnaging, to be a better person one has to willing to change.
You would think a couple of days from communicating would be justifiable enough yet he had other issues going on and sought out to use my "mood" as an excuse. Being with someone you begin to learn this individuals ways, I know him and by no means am I naive to what's staring me in my face. He came to his senses and realized that he was taking things out of context and I discussed what was ailing me.
Ta da and here we are today, still trucking along together.
Thankyou for your time and comment.
Obviously my boyfriend and I have been together for quite some time and like other couples we know what pushes the others button, me stating that I would mail his items back wasn't going to take place at least I like to think it wouldn't. Our relationship has suffered because of his behavior towards me in the past which has been forgiven. His past ways overshadows who he's trying to become now. Call it what you want being a human being I am entitled to feel however. At any second he could turn into a monster, old habits die hard. It takes more than changing your sleep patterns or the way you eat your food (which these are the changes he's made) that's why their brought forth. He has to change for himself not for me sure you can say he's thinking of you when chnaging, to be a better person one has to willing to change.
You would think a couple of days from communicating would be justifiable enough yet he had other issues going on and sought out to use my "mood" as an excuse. Being with someone you begin to learn this individuals ways, I know him and by no means am I naive to what's staring me in my face. He came to his senses and realized that he was taking things out of context and I discussed what was ailing me.
Ta da and here we are today, still trucking along together.
Thankyou for your time and comment.
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Hi there and welcome to the forum. Well, I don't know hon. I think the relationship had problems hence your desire to take a 'break'. Perhaps he found he was at peace during the break and realized that he didn't want to continue things. That is reasonable and actually a good choice to then break it off with you if that is how he feels. Why string you along? Why pretend? He's saying that he has found your moods and things hard for him to deal with.
I contend that relationships when you are young are suppose to have a lot of fun associated with them. You aren't married with kids--- so you have to look at things in such a way as to make a good choice to stay or go. We date to figure out if we want to be with someone long term and not everyone we date are we supposed to be with long term. We rule people in or out. It sounds like he has ruled long term out with you.
I wouldn't mail his things to him as that is a 'shock value' thing to do and lacks maturity. He gave you presents, why would you mail them back? Instead, if you have some items that are HIS and he'd like them back--- you can even call him (enough with the texting) and ask if you have anything of his that you need to return (and no, he shouldn't want presents he gave to you. What would he do with them? Tacky to take those back.) If you do have something of his, then ask if you can meet to return them.
I'm sorry it went down like this and I'm sorry you are in shock and hurting. Stay busy and focus on yourself and this opportunity to work on you, enjoy what you like, etc. good luck
I contend that relationships when you are young are suppose to have a lot of fun associated with them. You aren't married with kids--- so you have to look at things in such a way as to make a good choice to stay or go. We date to figure out if we want to be with someone long term and not everyone we date are we supposed to be with long term. We rule people in or out. It sounds like he has ruled long term out with you.
I wouldn't mail his things to him as that is a 'shock value' thing to do and lacks maturity. He gave you presents, why would you mail them back? Instead, if you have some items that are HIS and he'd like them back--- you can even call him (enough with the texting) and ask if you have anything of his that you need to return (and no, he shouldn't want presents he gave to you. What would he do with them? Tacky to take those back.) If you do have something of his, then ask if you can meet to return them.
I'm sorry it went down like this and I'm sorry you are in shock and hurting. Stay busy and focus on yourself and this opportunity to work on you, enjoy what you like, etc. good luck
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