abortion

[yaz101]

i am going to have an abortion on thursday, i am scared of not having kids again because they told me that there is a risk of not have kids again. i am only 16 and i dont want my future plans gone.
i was wondering if i can have intercourse of the abortion?
thanks for your help


This discussion is related to How long before sex after termination?.

[RockRose]

yaz,  how quickly you can have sex again is really,  truly the least of your worries right now.  You are about to make a monumental decision,  that will affect the entire rest of your life.    For some,  they don't regret abortion,  some are dogged by guilt that haunts them the rest of their lives.  In either case - this is time for you to be doing some real soul-searching and deciding if this is the right decision for you.

Please just forget how quickly your boyfriend can get sex out of you again.  He is not important,  and he needs to turn off the baby maker before it happens to you again.

Yes,  statistically,  you will have a greater chance of  infertility after an abortion than you would have if you went through with this pregnancy.  This is another thing you might want to research before making this decision.  

Focus on you,  and what's important,  and forget what isn't important.  Which is your boyfriend's 'needs' - this is what got you here in this horrible place to begin with.

[adgal]

I have to agree with much of what RockRose is saying.  Please take the time to focus on you and your emotional needs right now. You are only 16, trust me, chances are good that any boyfriends at this stage of your life won't last forever.  If you are good with your decision, then I wish you the best.  You are making one of the most difficult decisions a women will ever make.  If you are not sure of your decision, please see a counsellor prior to going through with it.  To answer your question about having a baby afterwards...here I disagree a bit with RockRose (sorry RockRose).  It is unlikely this will affect your chances of having children in the future, providing you are doing this in the first few weeks of your pregnancy and you are having it done by a proper dr. in a proper medical faciltiy.  Follow their directions afterwards.  I have never had an abortion, but I have had 2 D&C's following miscarriages, and the follow up info is almost the same.  No intercourse for at least 2 weeks and they also give you information to watch for signs of infection.    Get on some proper form of birth control, and use condoms as well...you never want to be in a position to have to make this decision again.  No matter what your decision is, make absolute certain it is your decision.  I am also 100% pro choice personally, and you need to remember that means you have choices besides this one. I hear a scared young women on the other end of this post, so please talk to someone (preferably a professional) ahead of time.  Make sure you make a decision you can live with.  

[babypooh]

Would you consider giving the baby up for adoption? You would be saving a life and not putting yourself through any unnecessary procedures :( Good luck with everything, no matter what your decision is :)

[angelbabies]

it will increace your chance of having miscarrages, why not think about adoption you could give your baby to a family that realy wants a child and has alot of love to give, you can also have an open adoption so you can contact the baby and see the baby if you wanted! this is a little life babys are gifts from god and if you dont want it give it to someone who dose.

[GRose]

adgal and Yaz- Studies have proven that abortions can lead to infertility and or can make it hard to carry to full term, RockRose is right.
Some women can have multiple abortions and can still go on to have healthy babies but some aren't so lucky.
For example, my best friend had an abortion at 8 weeks and she has had 3 miscarriages since then, it may be a coincidence and it may not be. She is heartbroken every time she looses a baby, she regrets her decision.
Seriously explore all your options here. Do you have a supportive family? Abortion is not the only answer here.
Good luck

[Myown]

There are so many couples who are unable to have children and would provide a good home for your baby. If you are worried about the hospital expense, everything would be taken care of by the couple and you would also be given an adoption fee. Please speak to someone other than Planned Parenthood. There are so many loving couples who would plead with you to let them have the baby so that they can start a family. That would be a wonderful thing for you to do - to help a heartbroken couple out. I understand you feel too young to keep the baby, but abortion does not need to be the answer.

I wish you the best,
MO

[GRose]

I agree that you should talk to someone other than a planned parenthood worker, they are not just what I would call pro-choice, they are more in the pro-abortion category.