abusive boyfriend. I am pregnant....

[sharon6922]

Can someone help me, I don't know what to do. I am 8 weeks pregnant and my partner is being aggressive, he is snapping over the slightest thing, today he was in my face yelling at me saying "your a f>>>king moody, sick ****" and how I am mentally not right, I sat crying as he yelled at me & he had no emotion in his eyes. This is not the first time he has done this, there has been violence in the past and he has hit me. I don't wanna leave as I will have no where to live and I wont be able to support my baby x

[Tanairi4]

I passed through that for 7 years don't put yourself down walk away before is to late their is help out their I would think the same way but no do it for your baby move don't believe his promises don't think your baby will not have a daddy or no money just do it you will have a better life

[specialmom]

If you can, let us know how things go.  I so hope you are able to get away from this situation.  Hugs

[sharon6922]

Thankyou xxxx

[specialmom]

You have to get yourself in a place to be self sufficient where you don't NEED someone to take care of you.  Find a way to do school or job training hon.  It's a must do or you will always be vulnerable to making poor choices in a mate.  

Here is a link of a web site/page that I want you to read.  At the bottom is the phone number for Woman's Aid in the UK

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_help_treatment_prevention.htm

Here is the number from this website for Woman's Aid---

UK Woman's Aid:  0808 2000 247

Please pull up this link as you will find some excellent useful information for your situation.

peace and stay in touch

[sharon6922]

I've told him I am not getting back with him unless he gets to anger management and he has agreed. I live in the UK and have no clue where there are shelters, hes done the "am sorry" but sorry doesn't cut it anymore with me :( xx

[specialmom]

Oh goodness.  So sorry that this is going on.  Sweetie, you can't be with this man.  That is too volatile of a house for you let alone a baby to live in.  What if he gets mad at your baby?  

I feel so badly for young women that get 'trapped' like this.  Men aren't supposed to be our supporters and have us in a position that it is really awful and we are hurt emotionally and physically but we stay because we have no other options.  WE have to get into a position in life to fend for ourselves.

Until you are, there are other options.  Assistance is one of them.  I would rather you be in a shelter right now than him.  Then you can reestablish through their help.  You can get appointments set up for public assistance including housing, food stamps, etc.  You can have medical care provided.  Once the baby is born, you would ask for WIC for baby needs.  

I don't encourage a woman to go on assistance very often.  It's not a lifestyle one wants to have for very long. BUT, if you would need it now to get back on your feet, you need it.  That's what it is there for. Then you can go to school, study really hard and train for some type of job so that you can pay your own bills and not need a hurtful man.  

As to the above post, we do not give out personal information nor do I encourage you to contact someone and let them know where you live.  I'm sure it is well meaning but this is the internet.  You can pm for advice from anyone but I caution you to keep your personal information private.  

Anyway, I'm here to support you any way I can.  But you have to leave this man.  This is not a healthy situation.  And down the road, you must seek some help yourself because abused women tolerate far more than they ever should and that means they have some clouded, unhealthy thinking that has allowed them to get into positions in life that healthy thinkers wouldn't.  That is good to examine so that it never happens again.

peace

[DorindaM]

Sweet girl, listen to me as I have been in your shoes. when I was 19 I was pregnant with my first child. I grew up in foster care and had no where to go and no family. My ex was very abusive to  me physical, mentally and verbally and I stayed believing that after the baby was born that things would change but unfortunately THEY DID not they got worse!!!! After my son was born he got worse and almost killed me and my son! Please listen to me and RUNNN, find a shelter, talk to an officer, their are people who CAN get you out of that situation IF YOU REALLLY WANT TO! You may not have the self esteem to believe you deserve better but think of your sweet innocent baby growing in your belly, do it for your baby so they don't have to see that kind of life. if you need to talk please email me anytime dorinda.***@****  Good luck princess, do whats best for your baby before he hurts you or makes you miscarry. If you want give me your zip code and I will find help for you!! sending LOTS OF HUGS AND LOADS of strenght!!!