advice

[mamab463]

9 wks pregnant, completely unplanned, boyfriend of 5 1/2 years wants an abortion, this is my first pregnancy and feel guilty if I were to do that. Advice please?

[mami1323]

Personally, if I don't want to do something I don't.  I wouldn't get an abortion to hold onto a man because your relationship is not guaranteed and you will live with your decisions the rest of your life.  Having unprotected sex can lead to pregnancy so he should've definitely thought about that before it happened.  It's really up to you, if this is something you want to consider but don't do it because he wants you to.  

[imanaddict]

Follow your gut instinct and don't do anything without completely thinking it through. Only you can make this decision and it's a decision you will have to live with the rest of your life so choose carefully.

[PJ466]

Don't do anything against your will but be prepared for the consequences

[teko]

If boyfriend of 5 and a half years did not want children he should have considered that option before having unprotected sex. If the relationship has not evolved in that amount of time, maybe the boyfriend is the one who should be aborted. IMO. The child is innocent.

[Judy246]

This is something that should have been thought of before becoming sexually active also long term consequences of unprotected sex, risk for STD's, HIV and now an unexpected and unwanted pregnancy. It is irresponsible and selfish of your b/f to now want to get out of the situation. Although no one in this forum can tell you what you should do, because it is a very personal decision that only you and your b/f should make, life is pecious, it is a gift and aftermath consequences both way. Raising a child or terminating a pregnancy. If you want this child, then go ahead and be blessed with this little gift, but your life will never be the same, your life will belong to raising that child, but life is beautiful and precious and if he wants no part of it, he's not worth keeping and let it serve as a lesson on responsible behavior with life long consequences. Good Luck!

[PromisedLand]

Does this man not understand that unprotected sexual activity has been known to result in unexpected pregnancies?  If he's old enough to have sex, he's old enough to know that.  And he should be man enough to accept YOUR decision as to what YOU want to do with that life growing in you.  Ultimately the decision is yours..is that not what prochoice is all about?  yes, if you think you cannot give the baby a life with a mother and a father you can give it up for adoption...i pray you can persuade this man to accept this baby, accept his role as a man and a father and help you raise a happy healthy child with a happy healthy family relationship..

good luck to you....

Jim

[lovemykids465]

He should have thought about that before he got you pregnant. I personally am against abortion, all I can say is will you be able to live with yourself if you went through with it. Your BF will get use to the idea of a baby eventually and if not at least you know how you feel and what you can offer this beautiful little life.

[mamabalas]

This is a very personal decision, and everyone has their own opinion about abortion.  I don't think it should be performed.  I cannot however tell you what you should do.  I can say, do not have an abortion for your boyfriend.  There is a life inside of you, growing every day, one that I think God gave you for a reason and this should not be ignored or "gotten rid of".  If you don't want the abortion and you do it for your bf, you will never get over it, and I'm sure resentment and other feelings will hurt the relationship drastically.  If neither of you are ready to have a child, you can give this baby up for adoption and a loving man and woman can have a baby they may never have gotten.