baby mama drama

[Angie1116]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 7 months.  His ex is pregnant and he dosen't know if its his or not.  He admits to sleeping with her before we started going out.  Rite now we are on a break because he is so overwhelmed with all this going on.  He has made it clear that he dosent want to get back with her and he wants to be with me but he dosen't want me to feel left out or like he dosent have time for me but the thing is i really don't care.  I'm not going to let the fact that he might become a dad jepordize our relationship.  I love him so much and i know he loves me back but i really want him to understand that i'm going to be here....ughhhhhh im so confused!!!!!!!!

advice is needed!

[dgrant16]

oh my gosh, we are goin thru the exact thing at the exact time. Ive been with mine 7 mths too and his baby mama says that but he doesnt think it is his. And we taking a break also, so all i can say is just make it known to him that u there if he needs u because even though its hard to see he is thinking about everything in the future and how it will play out if u 2 are together and that is his baby and it scares him that it may not work, so its like he is looking out for u now. Even though i know we dont care about them having a baby, they see it as baggage, or a problem for u, drama because of the baby mama. So this is what i do. I know my man dont want his baby mama ,but she doesnt want him to be wit me either because she jealous. So i still go over and chill with him and his family as normal, just without all the touchy feely stuff couples do. And this shows him u aint gon no where and he notices that. And make sure u wear sum cute, because they notice that too. I just got a txt about how sexy i was ystdy and how he loved my hair. So its not there's truest decision to have a break they are just confused and need to be alone right now, if that makes any sense. Its a guy thing. But im sure he hates to hurt u, and it may seem awkward at first but everthing will unfold, he will find out if the baby his one day, and he will see whether the ex just tryna keep yall arat or what, but he will realize he needs and wants u, but let him figure that out. But also make sure u let him know that u can do witout him even though u know u dont want too. I hope that helps. Cuz i love mine too death and his daughter and now dat ***** lying talking she got another of his on the way, and he was protected and checked the condom, so we know she lying but he tryna be a good man and do what he may need to do for his possible child. So just be glad u got a good man that put his kids first because after this is all over im sure he will do right by u, and u gone love that about him.

[Angie1116]

Yes, that is so true.  His ex is so jealous of us being together and this is just her way of making sure we are not together.  He does admit to sleeping with her before we went out but he says he knows the baby is not his and is doing the same thing of being the bigger man and taking responcibilitys because there is a chance of it being his of course.  Its hard and frustrating but I can't even imagine what he is going through and I love him and would do anything for him including being here for him even through these rough times.  I still hang out with him too and we laugh but we definitly have that boundry like you and your boyfriend have.  I'm doing the same thing you are im really just trying to prove to him that im not going anywhere.  Its funny because I thought I was the only person going through something like this.  My friends all disagree and tell me to leave him and I just don't listen to them because they don't understand my feelings for him.  Your advice really helped.  Thanks!!! =]  It's so werid how were both going through the same thing.

[dgrant16]

no problem, we all just need sumone positive to talk to. My boyfriend is so amazing and so nice, but his ex knows just what to say to him to make him think a certain way, and better yet make him rethink that its better that we dont be together because of all the drama she puts him thru. Like i said he is just thinking of u in the long run, but i know u love him like hell so dont listen to anyone but ur heart because even if u move on u WONT be happy. And im sur once he sees all is well and stands up to her, then itll all be over and ull be happy together without the baby mama drama, she just needs to know that he DOES NOT want her, sumtimes that is the hard thing to get into their heads. NE ways, hope all works out and just act normal, he will appreciate and love u more in the end, she doesnt know it but y she tryna break u up, its just strenghtening the relationship in the end.

[BabyHardiman]

Advice......

No matter what the outcome, if you decide to stay with him and he IS the father, you need to respect his relationship with his ex, because they will be co-parenting together.

[mami1323]

It's very strange how you both are experiencing the same thing at the same time, and have been with your men the same amount of time.

Does anyone else see where I'm going with this?

[dgrant16]

no i dont see where u are goin with it, but guess im not suppose to.

[ticked]

hahhhahahhah ahahahahahahah hahahahahah too funny mami1323 hahahhah

[mami1323]

Thank you....at least someone finds the humor in it...lol.