boyfriend. .

[Rocky12052014]

So I'm 21 weeks pregnant and I think my boyfriend (baby daddy) is cheating on me.. how do I know for sure he is cheating or not.

[Londres70]

Well, there is proof in his actions for sure no matter what he says......he is not ready for this child.  Don't know if he is cheating though.  Cheating isn't per se the major problem but the fact he is distancing himself from you isn't a great sign.  The whole idea might be freaking him out being that he is so young or he may have mixed feelings about the situation;

I would definitely suggest you start making plans in regards to the baby based on YOU.  He might just disappear completely one day.

Do you work or have friends and family that can help you?  I wouldn't count on him 100%.

[Rocky12052014]

That's what I tell him but he has been more distant. . I want the baby to have a father in his life but if he is going to be distant I don't want to involve him if he doesn't want anything to do with the baby

[Londres70]

How can he "save up for an apartment" when he has NO job?

Why can't he stay at your home NOW to help you out while you are pregnant with his child?  Why wait until the baby is here to stay at your home?

He sounds like he isn't ready for fatherhood as most 20 year olds aren't........probably doesn't want to be tied down with a child.

His plan sounds bogus.

[Rocky12052014]

What we discussed was that we were going to live separate but until he can save up for an apartment. But he wants to stay at my house when the baby is first born so he could help me. I asked him recently if that was still His plan and he said yes

[TTinKKerBBell]

what are Your (His) plans regarding the Baby?  Do You plan to Parent separately? with Him living 30 minutes away from You and the Baby?

[Rocky12052014]

He's 20 I'm 18 and he lives about 30 min away from me. We have been together for 5 years now. I tried to talk to him and he seems excited about the baby and when he is with me he acts the same but when we are apart he acts distant and suspicious

[vicki595]

Do you know where he lives? How long have you known him?

Try and talk with him. It could be that he's having a hard time dealing with his feelings about your (and his) situation. Are you both young?

Don't accuse him without proof. Talking it through is best.

Let us know...

[mommies1stbabie]

Then he is cheating...

[Mommy_Daddy_2]

Do you have a car? Show up unexpected at his house.

[Rocky12052014]

He doesn't let me see his phone anymore. . And since we live separate when I call him or text him he doesn't answer or when he does answer it is very brief or when he talks on the phone he talks low sometimes. He doesn't come around much anymore.  And he doesn't have a job at the moment so I really don't know what he is doing and I asked him once if he was cheating and he got all defensive and left my house.. so I really don't know

[LadyBeeley]

Do you trust him or not? I think thats more important than wanting to sleuth and catch him this way or that.

[ThisLady]

If he hides his phone that's a good sign.
If he works extra hours and doesn't get paid for them, that's also a good sign.

[reshaytito]

If you think he is cheating and has no evidence then I wouldn't accuse him just yet until you for sure know. Its hard to just know with out solid proof you know just keep ya head up

[specialmom]

Hi there.  You asked this earlier today or yesterday.  Without any other information, it is really hard to say.  Can you elaborate as to why you are asking the question?