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boyfriend porn problems!

I have been having a similar problem, i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half and he cheated on me when we were together for about 6 months. he swears they only made out but he was gone till 5 in the morning so i am not really 100% sure nor will i ever be. i forgave him because i have never been with a guy that was so nice to me and treated me so well, until recently i moved in with him i found out that he was on all these porn sites online and so i just decided maybe we should have more sex so he stops! so i got mad at him and ended up just having sex with him 4 times that day only for the next day to have him look on sites again and delete the history! i asked him about it and he just said it was a habit he has been doing it for so long now!! i am sooo annoyed i just can't see how i could yell at him one day try to fulfill his needs more then have him do it again the next day! i feel like its so disrespectful and i am still sooo mad!! he this it is ridiculas that i am mad? any opions?
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He cheated on you the first 6 months of the relationship. Said he only kissed her, but was with her until 5 AM (hummm?). You were willing to take a risk and forgive him, because he was so "nice" and treated you so well and you cared about  him, BUT he was nice and treated well the other girl no?  If you are uncomfortable around porn and don't like that he views it, tell  him how you feel. There is no reason why you should have to join him in something that you don't want to do and not everyone views porn. I personally think it's discusting and will not have it in my relationship. Temptations is everywhere and I still believe that if the opportunity was there to cheat, he probably do it again!

Tell him how you feel and let's hope that he will appreciate you and not cheat again. Judy
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The cheating makes this situation a bit more complex than it should be. Looking at porn online is just something that a lot of people (men and women) do. It does not mean that they are unhappy or not being satisfied by who they are with. It is just natural - and usually harmless. Try not to take this as a reflection on you. People enjoy masturbation and sex - it's not an either / or type of thing. And so long as you are his only playmate - there is nothing to worry about. Now the fact that he cheated on you, and that it doesn't sound like the two of you fully dealt with that betrayal, will make you question his intentions when it comes to anything sexual. This is to be expected. If you don't fully trust him, than you will always have your doubts. However, yelling at him about looking at porn online is just going to make him want to hide his behavior more (i.e. deleting the computer history). It is important that the two of you can talk openly about sex - and that you don't make each other feel ashamed. You can talk to him about how his online behavior makes you feel (in the context of his previous indiscretion). Don't yell at him. Just talk honestly about how it makes you feel. I'm not sure if I agree with the once a cheater, always a cheater motto - though as someone who has been cheated on by my partner of 10 years - and certainly feel like this sometimes. But it sound like the two of you probably have some trust issues to work on. How do you feel about occasionally viewing pornography with him? This way, you can be included in the activity, and he will not feel the need to hide it from you. Just a thought.

All the best..
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His dishonest and can't be trusted. Once a cheat, always a cheat. This guy is no good, dishonest, cheater and he will break your heart. Dump him, before he ends up hurting and dumping you.
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