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I'm seriously done I Dont want him anymore he's starting to act like a complete jerk he don't realize how many men wanted me to be their bm and how they are crushed that he's with me n I'm having his kid I mean I do love him bit he's a jerk he treated his other bm bad and use to beat her up n cheated on her all the time and not to mention he's cheated on me and I beat him up but he didn't fight me back we tried getting past it but I'll never get over it I don't like him anymore like he's here now and I won't speak to him If the house was on fire I'd just leave n let him burn
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Gosh, I'm going to be honest. This whole thing sounds volatile from the idea of his cheating on you and beating up his ex to you beating up him. That needs to get under control before a baby is there to witness this instability and out of control behavior on the adults part. I'm just being really honest. Experts say out of control 'yelling' in front of kids is so damaging . . . let alone any type of violence. So, I'm just a little worried about everyone here.
I do look at how someone was with their ex and if he has a history of beating up women and cheating, I DO wish you had been with one of these other guys you say wanted you. But what's done is done. Now, you will forever be attached to this man via your shared child no matter how much of a jerk he is.
If you want a peaceful home for the baby though, it doesn't sound like you two should be together anymore. And if you are going to try to be together as I see that you say you love him, then think of strategies to work out differences that involves calm communication and really resolving things.
Anyway, I sometimes have a hard time knowing if someone is just venting which is good to do and I encourage or if there is a major problem. But once I hear anyone (male or female) has gotten violent, then the relationship seems to have such significant issues that it might not be worth fixing. Or the people in the relationship need to be aware of the violence as a problem that they HAVE to fix. I'm glad he didn't fight you back by the way!! We have to control our anger so as to not go physical with it. I think lots of people grow up in homes where that is not uncommon and it becomes a hard pattern to not repeat but important to really try.
Please understand I'm trying to help here and to give an outside perspective. I am not saying anyone is a bad person or anything like that. I just know that patience needs to grow when we have kids because we need more of it. I sure did/do!!
I think being with someone is really hard --- around them a lot, they annoy us, so much is riding on it, we have to trust them, etc. that relationship just take a ton of work. And sometimes it can be going badly and then turn around and be good again. good luck
I do look at how someone was with their ex and if he has a history of beating up women and cheating, I DO wish you had been with one of these other guys you say wanted you. But what's done is done. Now, you will forever be attached to this man via your shared child no matter how much of a jerk he is.
If you want a peaceful home for the baby though, it doesn't sound like you two should be together anymore. And if you are going to try to be together as I see that you say you love him, then think of strategies to work out differences that involves calm communication and really resolving things.
Anyway, I sometimes have a hard time knowing if someone is just venting which is good to do and I encourage or if there is a major problem. But once I hear anyone (male or female) has gotten violent, then the relationship seems to have such significant issues that it might not be worth fixing. Or the people in the relationship need to be aware of the violence as a problem that they HAVE to fix. I'm glad he didn't fight you back by the way!! We have to control our anger so as to not go physical with it. I think lots of people grow up in homes where that is not uncommon and it becomes a hard pattern to not repeat but important to really try.
Please understand I'm trying to help here and to give an outside perspective. I am not saying anyone is a bad person or anything like that. I just know that patience needs to grow when we have kids because we need more of it. I sure did/do!!
I think being with someone is really hard --- around them a lot, they annoy us, so much is riding on it, we have to trust them, etc. that relationship just take a ton of work. And sometimes it can be going badly and then turn around and be good again. good luck
I totally want to leave him he's upset cause he feels like I've been bi tchi ng at for no reason he just don't see him self in the light I do
Wow , that's crazy . Most people will just say communication is the BEST problem solver & I can not lie I do agree . But, at some point you have to start showing actions . Meaning leave that situation & make better before that baby comes into this world . Because things will only go from bad to WORSE!
I was going through the same. not the bad fights but just realization, and I broke up with him. I am not gonna stress me and my baby out. I need to be happy and being with myself at the moment is what makes me happy.I think you need to Do whatever makes you happy.
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