cheating

I have just been told, by my boyfreind of 10 months that the whole time he has been seeing another woman whom he has been dating for three years. I have two children. He only told me as the other g/f has a lot of text messages that she is going to give to me and he wanted to find out from me first. He has said that he wants to be with me and will break it off with the other lady. He has told me some awful lies and I am not sure what to do next. She has no kids, he has a disabled daughter so "family" wise it works better for him and him and his wife had a messy divorce as he cheated 3 times so it has been hard for him to be open with them. What should I do? I am scared he will cheat again and hurt me and my kids but I love him. Do you think that I will ever be enough for him? Do you think I should look at the text messgaes that she delivers as they will not be goo - w/e away with me but texting her 20/30 times and arranging to meet her on his return. Please help

[jo929]

If he has been cheating all of this time, that should tell you something, that is a big red flag telling you he will go on cheating, he just got caught, so move on with your life   luck  jo

[imanaddict]

I agree with jo. He got caught which the ONLY reason he came clean. He's already been seeing this other woman for 3 years! Evidently yours and his relationship  meant nothing to him. He won't "leave" that other woman. They obviously have a connection or he wouldn't have stayed with her that long. He can say he'll do this and that til he's blue in the face, but his words mean absolutely nothing at this point. Don't waste another minute with that jerk and find you someone who is worthy of you.

[SweetiePie411]

I think you should just leave him right now. There isn't no way he is gonna leave the other woman. If he cheated 3 times in his previous marriage, he is probably gonna keep cheating in this situation. Looking at the text messages won't really help anything, but they might just upset you more. I agree with jo and imanaddict's answers. Good luck!

[Vance2335]

This is the 3rd time you have posted this. Please keep all to one thread and do not keep posting the same thing over and over.

[vmvnpv]

I thought this looked familiar.  I've already answered you once.  You know what you need to do.  It's just not the advice you wanted to hear.  Dump the guy and move on.  Your kids deserve better than what he's giving them.

[Boogie8481]

The question here is will he ever be good enough for you, not you for him.  This guys has issues with himself.  He needs help....mentally.  You should dump him.  These type of guys use other women while being in a more serious relationship and will never leave the one they are already with for some reason.  I don't really get these guys.  My only thought is that he is using you and you are letting him because you have fallen for him.  Please leave him unless you want your children thinking this is the right way to treat women.  You need to do something good for you.  Obviously he wasn't going to tell you anyway, you may not have ever found out and he may by that time have married the other women.  It seems you are the "other woman" in this mess, and men are never serious, nor really care about the "other woman".  The "other woman" plays the role of a toy they can use to get added pleasure on the side.  When he could just be a man and tell you that he has a girlfriend, or tell both of you what he wants, but he is not a real man.  Think about all of this.  There are so many single men out there who would be happy for one woman, and for all you know, you and this girl aren't his only two he has.

[Artemis04]

I concur with boogie8481, he may be seeing multiple women that you do not know about.  I went through something like this recently, within the past 3 weeks. I wasted 4, almost 5 months dating a guy that ended up being a pu&&% a$$ bit&^. He was seeing me, his baby mama, and another chick named Jennifer. I did like him but he ending up being a dumb *** looser. And I had to realize what an *** he was and that I can do better and that I deserve better. Just try to cut ur losses....there are children involved and think of the children more than yourself. I know you may like him but you and the children deserve better.

[Judy246]

It's obvious that he does not love you. You need to have self respect and not take this type of abuse....dump him and don't look back.

[Nutkin]

If you sweep it under the carpet then you will lose yourself respect and dignity, trust me been there and got the t-shirt and i have only just and so got it all back 14 months on,hes a coward and has no respect for you and in time you will look back knowing you did the right thing.

Karma: what he gives out he will get in return!