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falling in love with my cousin

last time i saw my cousin was 10 years ago. I was 12 and she was 10. I don't remember a lot since we weren't very close. After 10 years i started talking to her again. We have been talking for few months now. She lives in my home country and havent been back to my home country in 10 years. We are so used to talking to each other, and we get along so well. We spend 5-6 hours everyday talking. I really feel close to her and feel like shes just the perfect girl and i can be myself and act like me around her. I have decided to visit her after 10 years and im not sure if this is morally right. For me to fall in love with my cousin. We are both starting to have feelings for each other. Its stupid to say this since we havent seen each other and its just over the net but if things do get more serious when i see her, how do we tell our family?
i must add, where i come from its not uncommon for cousins to get married. i dont even feel like shes family, shes the only one that has made me want to be a better person, with school, my job just everything. I'm very mature for my age, i know hormones play a big role but i have so many girls around me but none make me feel this way so i know its not my age. Its just i feel good around her.
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If you plan to go live there, not here, and in your home country first cousins can marry, I am not sure I would agree with getitright.  My caution would be that it is easy to have an ideal relationship when it is long distance, and it might not be so ideal once you are in reality.  On the internet, nobody has dirty laundry and unpaid bills and fuzzy black-light posters in their bedroom, and nobody shrieks at you when they don't like the way you drive or sneeze or talk with your mouth full, and nobody sits on the toilet on Sunday and makes the bathroom stinky while they read the funnies.  You don't have to show those lovely facets of your personality and neither does she, so you don't.  It's sure easy to fall in love with an ideal !!!!!

That said, sometimes long-distance relationships carry enough heat that the couple can parlay that into a lifelong thing.  I hope you can.  Just go in with realistic expectations.
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Be friends,talk as much as you want to eachother,but that,s where you draw the line in the sand.Don,t take it any further because it,s morally wrong to be in love with your cousin and it can become very complicated for you,her and the rest of the family.Have a normal cousin to cousin relationship but that,s all.
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