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fiancé drama/vent
No judgment please.. just a venting session
I have been pretty unhealthy lately and been trying to get my habits within control and so far I have done well but my fiance has helped me up untill this point but this morning I was doing the usual getting him ready for work and he started abusing me saying that he shouldn't have to help me and was saying some very hurtful things to me. I was advised by the doctor to try and cut back on my unhealthy habits but not to quit completely as the stress on myself will pass through to the baby. my partner is threatening to publicly shame me if I dont stop my habits completely. I must say he does help me access these bad habits.
As I have said in previous posts he has changed his persona completely but not in any good way.
I do everything for my partner I mean he does absolutely nothing... not even take the bin out or get his own clothes ready.. I prepare all his meals and outfits and even though im pregnant and tired and everything else he just hasnt changed and if I try to stop doing it for him he abuses me and takes things away from me like for example money so I cant go out during the day. I understood he was controlling when I first met him and I dont mind that but im now terrified that when the baby is actually here he will still expect the same from me while trying to look after a newborn, I dont think I will be able to cope getting up a few times during the night and then get up at 5:30am to get his clothes and esky and brekky ready for work...
Has anyone got any advice for me? Im just so upset and stressed.
I have been pretty unhealthy lately and been trying to get my habits within control and so far I have done well but my fiance has helped me up untill this point but this morning I was doing the usual getting him ready for work and he started abusing me saying that he shouldn't have to help me and was saying some very hurtful things to me. I was advised by the doctor to try and cut back on my unhealthy habits but not to quit completely as the stress on myself will pass through to the baby. my partner is threatening to publicly shame me if I dont stop my habits completely. I must say he does help me access these bad habits.
As I have said in previous posts he has changed his persona completely but not in any good way.
I do everything for my partner I mean he does absolutely nothing... not even take the bin out or get his own clothes ready.. I prepare all his meals and outfits and even though im pregnant and tired and everything else he just hasnt changed and if I try to stop doing it for him he abuses me and takes things away from me like for example money so I cant go out during the day. I understood he was controlling when I first met him and I dont mind that but im now terrified that when the baby is actually here he will still expect the same from me while trying to look after a newborn, I dont think I will be able to cope getting up a few times during the night and then get up at 5:30am to get his clothes and esky and brekky ready for work...
Has anyone got any advice for me? Im just so upset and stressed.
I agree, talk to the doctor about your unhealthy habits, and if you are able to handle those then it is time to reconsider the boyfriend.
What guerita said! You might also talk to your doctor. There are programs to help moms who need assistance, whether that is help getting the groceries to getting into a new or different situation. Best of luck to you
Stand up for yourself. Find the value in yourself. Do for you and not him put you and the baby first he can either get on board or jump ship if he bails then hes not the man for you
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