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first time mom, extremly depressed need advice :'(

I've been with my fiancé for 6months now we have had an on again off again relationship since I was 16/17 yrs old. He recently popped the question but now we have been fighting a lot more and it all started after we took in his mooching jobless heroin addicted best friend. We paid for everything from food to cigarettes
The guy was not very appreciative and ssince I saw how he was taking advantage of the man I love I lost my cool. Living with his best friend who was clearly using us began to make us fight and argue and it made my fiancé say a lot of hurtful mean things to me and ofcorse I always ended up crying. Now we have gotten his bff out and we are still fighting and last night we fought over the most ridiculous thing and he did nothing but turn away from me in bed mumble under his breath and is still as I write this asleep. He has woken up for a few brief moments mumbled something mean under his breath and went back to sleep :'( I have depression and since I can't take my prescription due to risk of birth defects idk how to make myself feel better. Do you ladies have any advice to give me on what I should do? I haven't slept yet and idk if I'm going to be able too since I can't stop wanting to cry over him being so upset with me :'( please help I don't want to hurt my growing baby because I'm sad depressed and can't eat or sleep.
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Hello ther im 22 and i had my boy at 20 and im still with his father we fight all the time i learned a lot from my mistakes , first  of all how old are u and him ? Becouse if ur still young its more stres full0 i know the felling here are my tips 1 . If you see him angry or not in a good mood dont speak to him just act normal and get out of the room , men tend to be like volcanos , sometimes one word is better than 2 they say here in my country , even when u fight just shut up and let it go becouse the fight tends to grow if u dont even if you are right to fight about something please try to let it go than when its cooled go to him and tell him for example , sorry i was only saying becouse im woried becouse i care for u  , its all in what u say that metters  2 . Try allways to look sexy i dont know you but i can speak for myself when i was pregnant i felt fat with my big belly and somtimes i just backed out ,dont do that allways look ur best show him that ur still nice . Were make up and nice , dont wear heals its not safe but you can look good even with a big belly make him say wow she looks great and hay you cant get pregnat when your pregnant so its a good time to bond more but stay careful for the baby , now 3 i dont know ur bf if he is doing drugs or anything put your child first and dont wory ul be fine ,  does he tell u that he love you? Do you go out on dates togher ? Am asking to help u more do u talk for at least 30min on somthing not fight?
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Thank you guys so much I felt like I was the only one in this boat. This app is a god sent I love being able to communicate with other mothers dealing with what I am too. I never feel alone anymore
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Are your serious? Take what life dealt and MOVE ON. They're losers. They defend they're druggy friends, loose them. See ya wouldn't want to be ya.
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I am the exact same way. My signifigant other is constantly lending idiots money like it grows on trees. Honestly, stand up dor yourself. Sit down and have a serious talk and tell him that you BOTH deserve to be treated better. Do not make it a one sided conversation.  I did that about 2 weeks ago and things are going smoothly. Youll argue and fight.  This is a very stressful time. But you have to lay down the law. It feels much better once its off your chest!! :)
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I know how you feel I to have depression and can't take my meds either. I'm gonna let you in on some advice as I kinda went through the same thing you are now with my first. My now husband left me with our first right after I found out I was pregnant and we fought over everything literally everything ...sometimes its hard especially for us to let things go but I'm telling you its not worth the stress and heartache to deal with men when they are on their periods...he may be feeling upset still over his whole best friend issue and be lashing out onto you..try to just keep thinking that aand when he's calmed down talk to him about what's upsetting him...communication is very important and I know that sounds like a simple and very stupid solution but its very true!! Hormones raging and being young never go well together and if you can get through being pregnant with someone and still come out together and loving to one another you have the real deal honey ...I know your upset about the hurtful mean things he's said but chances are he doesn't mean them and has only said them in the heat if the moment...don't think about it or him the rest of the night get some sleep and when you both are calm sit down and have a heart to heart ask him to Kay everything out that's hurting or upsetting him and you'll do the same thing and TOGETHER you'll work through it
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Things might seem so hard for you right now me and my partner are the same maybe if yous took some time to your self's it might help just look towards the happy part of it yous are going to b parents to a gawjus baby xxx talk things out tell him how you feel and how he's hurting you explain it's not good for the baby try sort your difference out it might work xx
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