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friends with ex?

Why do people try to stay friends with their ex? My ex left me, and later even found out he had cheated on me. Now he tries to add me on facebook and wants to be friends?? I don't get him.
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I agree with penswriter, an ex is an "ex" for a reason and they are that past for a reason and I like to keep them there. I believe some people are able to keep ex's as friends and that fine, but if the relationship ended in bad terms and he want's friendship it's either he feels guilty and want to make friends or want to be all in your business in FB.....only you can decide what's next.
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he could just be fishing for details about your life now. whether you're doing good, doing bad, relationships, friends. all that sort.

if you really don't want to have contact with him just block him and make your profile private. if he gives you a good reason why to be friends and you think it's logical or a good idea...accept it. there are no laws or rules that say you have to (and in some cases should be) friends with an ex. an ex is an ex for a reason.
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Well you should try and stay friends with ya ex... Im friends with every single ex I ever had. You neva kno if something might pop off again...but you should try to be friends. Forgive and forget. Dont dwell on the past
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... so, maybe he's just fishing for information about you... wanting to know where you're
at in life; if you're currently in a relationship; who your other friends are etc. I don't think that it's anything more than him being nosy.
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I think a request on facebook means he is curious about what is going on with you and now he can see?  He was the party that did wrong instead of being wronged so he has no hard feelings.  I'm not thrilled with facebook friends with ex's as you need your privacy without him aware of what is going on in your life and it is a waste of your time looking at what is going on with his.  He cheated-----------  what more do you need to know?  good luck  (and sorry he cheated!)
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Hi, I think his guilty conscience has finally caught up to him and he feel bad for his infidelity and for hurting you. Some people are able to be amicable with their ex's others want nothing to do with them. Only you can make the decision if you do or don't want him as a friend on facebook. It also seems as if he want to reconnect with you and FB is just an excuse for him to either get closer or be all in your business.

I personally like to keep my ex's where they belong in the past and I believe in karma, what goes around, comes around. My advice, don't do it, he will not let you move on and be a stumbling block in your life. Good luck.
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I ignored the request. I just don't get why he wants to be 'friends' now. He left me, and went for the girl he had cheated on me with. And she ended up just playing with him and leaving him, which made me feel better. I'm just confused why people want to be friends with their ex. I can see if you both decided to split, maybe, but usually it's one person leaving the other. Many end badly. And they want to be friends?
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In my opinion you can be friends with an ex, cause I have an ex who when we were together (years ago before the recent ex who Im not friends with) we were more like friends than bf/gf... We never connected on that emotional level, we broke up and I swear he is a real good friend now, but thats because everything between us was good, we did not have a falling out or cheat or anything!! We just fit better as friends rather that a couple!!! And we both knew it and decided it for the best!! And we chat a good but now!!!!

It all depends on how and why the relationship ended!!! And if it was a mutual decision!!! I could not imagine staying frineds with me recent ex cause he cheated and ruined my confidence and self esteem!!! Id kill him if I got near hin :-)
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I think the only time an ex should be considered an ongoing part of your life is if you were married and the marriage produced children. In the best interest of the children both parents should find a way to get along as they will both be thrown together as a result of events in the lives of the children, and of course it is in their best interest to not think their parents hate each other.

Other than that, why would you want to continue any kind of a relationship with someone who treated you so badly. I would ignore him. He has proven himself unworthy of your attention in the past, so his loss.
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