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Ok me and my boyfriend have been together for two yrs and are sex lives well it was an everyday thing this last three weeks he dosnt want to be around me talk to me or try to have sex with me I have tryed getting him in the mood and he says hes tired or has a lot on his mind is he cheating or what help anyone
I hope so to and ill let u know I really hope he talk cuz am getting tired of all this I just want my daughter and him and me happy if that means loosing him the have to such it up and keep moving forward for my daughter and i
Well, try to talk with him again and see what is going on.
He probably should have sought counselling after his friend died, however, I can't comment on what exactly is causing him to disengage from you and his child. Perhaps he is having bouts of depression/anxiety secondary to what exactly is the question AND/OR perhaps he just wants the "single" life again with less hassles/responsibilities.
Hopefully he opens up and tells you the truth, good or bad.
He probably should have sought counselling after his friend died, however, I can't comment on what exactly is causing him to disengage from you and his child. Perhaps he is having bouts of depression/anxiety secondary to what exactly is the question AND/OR perhaps he just wants the "single" life again with less hassles/responsibilities.
Hopefully he opens up and tells you the truth, good or bad.
But he does talk about his single life a alot lately so good luck to me cuz am gonna try and talk to him
Sorry phone changes words I meant to say am being stupid and ur right I should or but my daughter throw that.when we first start talking it was great he would talk but know its a shut down I know his friend passing way in front of him 7 years ago still hurts him he was like a bro to him and I think he's scared of parent hood and us but y wait two years and just know shutting down
I really didn't understand the comment "am being studied."
Well, I didn't know you both had a child together. Hmmm....he doesn't want to be around you or his child. If I man told me that I would leave and take the child with me. You don't deserve to be treated like this and above all, the child doesn't need to be treated like this or watch his dad come home drunk and pass out on the floor. Let him stay out and drink beers with the brother and pass out, etc., however, I wouldn't stick around and be his audience. I am not sure why he is doing this. I am not sure if just wants his single status again or the relationship and having a child is stressing him out to the max or what. If he is not willing to open up and talk with you that is a "RED FLAG" in my opinion anyway. Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who can't even share what's on his mind regardless of whether it is good or bad? Without communication there is NO relationship.
Sounds like he is disengaging from you and his child. Usually a person does this when he/she wants out of the situation/relationship.
Nothing else happened that lead up to this? Seems like there is another piece or part missing from this story.
Well, I didn't know you both had a child together. Hmmm....he doesn't want to be around you or his child. If I man told me that I would leave and take the child with me. You don't deserve to be treated like this and above all, the child doesn't need to be treated like this or watch his dad come home drunk and pass out on the floor. Let him stay out and drink beers with the brother and pass out, etc., however, I wouldn't stick around and be his audience. I am not sure why he is doing this. I am not sure if just wants his single status again or the relationship and having a child is stressing him out to the max or what. If he is not willing to open up and talk with you that is a "RED FLAG" in my opinion anyway. Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who can't even share what's on his mind regardless of whether it is good or bad? Without communication there is NO relationship.
Sounds like he is disengaging from you and his child. Usually a person does this when he/she wants out of the situation/relationship.
Nothing else happened that lead up to this? Seems like there is another piece or part missing from this story.
I have tryed talking to him and blows me off all he does is say am being studied I told him if u don't wanna be with me don't stay just cuz we have a kid I can take care of her and me on my own, he say he love us too much but doesn't wanna be around us just goes out side and drinks beer with his bro and come in late at night pass out on the floor he wont talk idk what to do anymore
If you were having sex every day for 2 years and now suddenly he won't have sex with you for 3 weeks no matter what you've tried, I think you might want to consider he may have had an encounter with a sex worker and is waiting on STD results.
Saying that he is cheating or not can be determined solely by his lack of sex drive in the past few weeks. It could be that his mind has wandered on something he deems as more important at the moment, such as work or things that he wishes to accomplish or maybe he is simply not in the mood. Give him some time and breathing space and if this mood of his continues just ask him gently if there is something wrong.
Good luck dr!
Anna
Good luck dr!
Anna
This is a very common situation in many relationships and can only really be sort if you both sit down and communicate,I know you already said he doesn't want to talk about it but really it's the only way that you are going to resolve this problem.
I don't necessarily agree with Annie. My boyfriend doesn't really talk about his feelings. It's just the way people deal with stuff. I think sex drives tend to dip over time. Give it time and it'll pick up again. It happened with us and were okay now, were actually trying for a baby now. Best of luck, just don't pressure him.
It sounds like what is on his mind is whether he wants to be in the relationship or not, because otherwise (if he likes the relationship) he would tell you what is on his mind. Either wait until he decides, or just ask him straight out if he is saying he is dissatisfied with the relationship as it is. Up to you.
Is he working more hours? Any serious problems going on at this time? i.e. financial, job, family. Have you two been arguing?
I can't say the man is "cheating" or not solely based on your sexual activity dipping, though it would make one wonder for sure. Has he said or did anything else for you to suspect cheating?
Perhaps the situation is just like he states, "He has alot on his mind."
Have you tried talking with him about what is upsetting him/what's on his mind?
I can't say the man is "cheating" or not solely based on your sexual activity dipping, though it would make one wonder for sure. Has he said or did anything else for you to suspect cheating?
Perhaps the situation is just like he states, "He has alot on his mind."
Have you tried talking with him about what is upsetting him/what's on his mind?
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