how do i kno if this can b a relationship??

[mommy_2010]

hello everyone i wasnt sure if this was tha best place to post this but didnt kno where else to....so my fiance works on tha boat a month at a time..and when we first started talking and dating we talked almost 24/7 he called txted me every chance he got...well now tha problem when hes on tha boat now im lucky if he calls 2x and txt 3x from tha time period of 5am till 12am hes a sweet caring loving guy hes abs.great hes good to my daughter he treats her as his own hes great to me..he jus recently got me a beautiful house so we could b closer to his work dock...but when hes gone i sumtimes question our relationship and get so frustrated then we fight..we always make up and its never a huge fight but it still hurts...do you all think maybe i could be over reacting due to tha stress from moving and not having him helping adn trying to get my job to transfer me...and also tha pregnancy deal i have a post bout..??or do u maybe think a realationship cant be made due to his month to month absence??i feel as if i have a fiance one month none tha next...its been hard lately and i hate questioning our relationship..please help!!!

[mommy_2010]

thank you for you advice on this...im going to try to make this work i have got enough nerve to talk to him bout it..he understood how i felt and he realized that maybe he doesnt try to talk as much as he should and i as well understood that his job is hard and i cant have him 24/7 that i should enjoy and cherish tha time i do...thank u much and best of wishes to u.

[mommy_2010]

im not saying he calls 5x in a morning im saying im lucky if he calls 2X and txt 3X from 5am in tha morning till 12 am tha next.and sumtimes i dnt even hear from him at all...

[penswriter]

my husband is a marine. he's inactive reserve right now (was active duty up until our boys were born and he opted to leave the marines to be home with us). while i was dating him he lived in japan. i saw him ONCE a year. we'd talk every morning before he went to work and every evening IF he didn't have duty. then he'd give me a call when he went to chow. then he went to iraq. i heard from him once every 2-4 weeks. once if i was lucky. i had no idea where he was or if he was okay until that phone call or email. then he went to d.c. i was able to see him every weekend until parade season. then it was once a month...IF he didn't have duty. we'd talk every morning and every evening. again if he didn't have duty.

be glad you get to talk to him. that he does text you. jobs like that are hard. not just on you but also on him. think about it from his perspective, he's stuck on a boat, with a bunch of sweaty, smelly men away from the woman he loves and his "daughter". if you can't accept that this is his life, this is how he makes a living...get out of the relationship before you're married and have kids together.

i was more than prepared to live the military life. i was beyond surprised when my dh said he wasn't resigning. (he had wanted to be a lifer) i'd prepared myself for long weeks, months or even years without him. (if he'd be sent back into war) if that is not something you can do....end it. if you can acccept it. if you can live for a few short weeks without him...stick it out.

[jenkaye21]

Are you saying he calls and texts 5x times every morning??  That seems like a lot to me!!  I mean, I'm sure you miss him very much, but try to remember that he is on the boat to work, so he may not be able to communicate with you more often than that.
As far as your relationship, if everything else is great, I would try to accept his work and realize that that's how it has to be, at least for now.  Is there any possibility that he will change jobs in the near or not-so-near future?  It would be very tough to be alone with a newborn...what does he have to say about this??