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254521 tn?1197510309

hubby and video games

Okay---I am 28 yrs. old and have been married for 9 years. My husband and I have 3 beautiful kids. The problem is my husband bought the dreaded xbox360 when it first came out. He was really great as far as playing it but he didn't have xbox live yet either. He got hooked up with live this year in Feb. and became obsessed!! He works in the oil field so he's off a week and on a week. On his off time, all he does is play the stupid xbox! He plays from the time he gets up to the time he goes to bed! We don't have sex anymore b/c he can't seem to get off long enough to spend time with me. He gets upset if u walk in front of the t.v. (God forbid he die on the game!). He got real good about playing only after the kids and I went to bed. BUT, Halo 3 came out Monday night at midnight. He went to the store to get it (at midnight) and played all night long. Now, all he plays is that game. I hate the xbox so much. I hate looking at it. I hate hearing it. I just HATE it! He says that I stay on the computer all the time, but that's b/c he plays video games all the time and I have nothing else to do. When the kids are here, we practice their sports and do school work. But when they are at school, I do stay on the computer b/c I'm bored. He did agree to do "family night" on Friday nights. We eat popcorn and watch movies with the kids which is great. But after they go to bed, it's game time! Am I being to needy? Should I back off a little? Any advice as to what I can do to get him to understand that xbox is consuming him would be nice. He claims that he can go a day without playing but I haven't seen that yet. I need advice. Thanks!
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Avatar universal
Hey Angel, hope you are doing well.

Just out of curiosity, I'd like to ask you a quest??

Does your husband do any kind of work, or is it that he just sits at home with you & plays games 24/ 7.

Probably you are multi-millionares & do not need to go out & work for a living.

What an amzing life.

You'd be able to play,

1) Playstation 3

2) X Box 360

3) Computer Games

4) Visit this forum when you are bored with all the games

Wow what a life. No need to bother about career/ work.

Hey but once in a while I am sure you would go out on a vacation. So do you take your video games with you, or do you leave them at home for a break.

But one thing I guess we should all finally agree with you, & it's just that geetting addicted to video games is much much much better than going to the bar every night/ picking up different women each and  every night/ getting hooked up on to drugs.

But we must also never forget that video games can cause health problem if played for more than tens of hours together each day. Also the fact that video games distance us from our friends & the social life if not dealt with in a responsible way.

Have a nice day ahead.

Cheers!!
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Avatar universal
Thank you for taking things in a positive way.

Just like you I realise how amazing this forum is.
I just hope that I dont get too much addicted to it. Just joking about it, because this forum is so amazing, that you people willing to convey their comments & opinions just to get our problems sorted out.

Itz been only few days that I have been around here & now I am thinking where was I all this months/ years & why didnt I ever come across this forum.

But like they say, itz never too late & I really appreciate the opinion/ comments/ info people provide here.

Take care of yourself. Have a nice day ahead.

Thank you..
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362249 tn?1441315018
Every1 i know complains about video games and i totally understand if youre not getting quality time for you or your kids then you should definetly set aside time for that but my X always ran around drank and did drugs and ignored me completely and i got fed up and left and now my new hubby stays home w/me all the time and he plays games alot he is addicted he likes everything computer wii, playstation u name it he likes it. i know that but he always pays attention to me and we spend time w/each other and i would take the video games anyday over the drugs and alcohol
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Avatar universal
It's about time management to me. Does he want to spend most of his life playing video games? If he stays like this, this is what will end up happening.

He might be escaping from some problems and needs someone to talk to. If you let him know you're there for him, he might stay off the video games and talk to you about his problems some more.
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337492 tn?1212458836
This forum has helped me in more ways than you can imagine and I understand what you mean by "first impressions".  All is well.
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Avatar universal
Perfect that was your way of looking at things at your point of view & my point of view probably is majorly different b'coz I strongly felt that this forum also had something majorly that was needed to be explained to the addicts in a positive way, so that they do the needful & at the end of the day, the main reason, why we are spending sometime & posting our opinions & comments here, is just b'coz we hope that after reading our comment, we just hope that towards the very end of it, they would realsie & think about what we had mentioned in our opinion & react accordingly, if they really felt, that what we had stated seems to be exactly right. Please alsways remember, just as the saysing goes 'First Impression Is The Best Impression' in the simllar way I would also believe that the last few statements in a forum is the actual main part of our opinion which people would consider after reading our opinion.

Thank you..
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