i need advice :'(

[Lcmg]

I am 19 yrs old nd I am having relationship problems.I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year I am currently pregnant with my second child nd his first we r living together along with his two brothers. I am so fed up with supporting them I pay for rent bills food everything! While my bf nd his brothers lay around all day I wrk for my mom cuz Its hard to find a job while pregnant so basically my mom is raising her family nd this one I am stuck in a deep hole nd not sure wwat to do I'm scared to tell my bf anything cuz when I do he gets depressed he does say. He will do something but never does. One of the brothers are. Always getting high nd comes home high I get mad nd when I tell my bf to tell his brother sommething. He seems scared or something nd don't say annything I don't know how to handle. This my first child has no father tthere for her nd I ddont want this kid to also not haviing anyone ..advice anyone HELP :'( imm emotionaly broken

[InsidesHangingOut]

Since when did it become your resposibility to take care of 3 grown men? Believe me the reason they don't work is because they don't have to as long as they can bum off of you. Send these three pitiful men on their merry way and you move back to your mom and take care of yourself and your children. I grew up without a heater or air-conditioner and I didn't die. I did what I had to do to survive, they can too.

[specialmom]

Talk to the landlord and tell them that you are pregnant and can't stay there and that your boyfriend's brother may be doing drugs there.  He'll probably let you out of the lease.  I would.  

I wish you luck.  This is really hard but you just have to be brave and make this break.  Peace and best wishes.  Let us know how it goes.

[TTinKKerBBell]

Ditto SpecialMom
Ditto cherrimamiof3
Ditto Londres

We all understand that it's hard to leave but what You're doing is hard.  So, trade hard for hard and go home to Your Mother for a better Life/Atmosphere for YourSelf and Your CHILDREN.  Everyone there is modeling to Your Children - You don't want that for Your Children

[Londres70]

When is the lease up for the apartment? Break it if you have to.  

Have your family come over and help you move out and tell them all this is best for you because you are pregnant and you need your family right now to help you and that they will have to find somewhere else to go.  POINT OUT.  They AREN'T your responsibility.  They will have to figure out what they need to do about their immigration status.  You aren't the welfare office or the immigration office.....in other words YOU CAN'T HELP THEM.  I am sure if you mention "police" they would all be scattering to the four winds.  

Plus, I wouldn't recommend you staying involved with them.  They are breaking the law and you are aiding and abetting people breaking the law.  To add: your bf's "depression" is the least of his worries if he is living in the US as an illegal.  Trust me.....he probably won't do anything drastic in regards to this "depression."  Do you want to deal with someone that mentally unstable anyways?  He's doing diddly squat for you and the baby; he sounds SUPER lazy and SUPER worthless.  

Don't keep this going because you don't want your second child not to have a father because your first child doesn't.  Plus, you are asking for legal problems if you continue to deal with this.  

[cherrimamiof3]

Just simply tell him that you are leaving but it is just tempturatly until the situtation improves. best of luck to you.

[Lcmg]

Thankyou I agree with you 100% the hard. Part is leaving idk how to come about it the apartment is in my name so I can't just get up nd leave nd I'm. Scared to make them leave oo. I forgot to mention theey don't have parents here they got sentt back to mexico about a year ago nd the only place for them is to there aunts a plaace with hardly any food nd no. Heater or conditioner .. I told him I want to go back to my. Moms nd he just says. Wat about me nd. My brothers idk wat to. Say wen he tells me that. I wish I could. Just start over nd go back to college make a. Simplier life for me nd my daughter nd son .. ur right bout him basically bumming but he is illegal he was brought here wen he was months old nd he don't knno how to work .... any advice on how to tell em to leave?

[specialmom]

Sweetie, go home and live with your mother.  What you describe is not an acceptable situation for you or a child.  Your boyfriend has no ambition and you are afraid to talk to him about why he does nothing with his life.  What was so attractive about him in the first place?  I have no patience for lazy people.  And he is attached to his brothers who get high and hang around . . .  you'd really have a baby in this atmosphere?  Oh, I so wouldn't.  

go live with your mother, work really hard, get extra education if you can so that you can eventually have a good enough job to not have to live with anyone and can support yourself with NO help but lose the loser boyfriend.  I'm not trying to be rude about him to you------  I am really not.  but your expectations of him are very low and he is certainly living up to them.  

I am not sure why you don't expect more out of someone you would have as the father of your child?  It is okay to want more.  It is okay to walk away from someone that doesn't meet your expectations for how they live.  

And this sounds like a horrible situation.  good luck