idk what to do

[mz_mila]

One minute everything is fine with me and my fiancee and the next we were having a huge argument. I'm pregnant right now and I don't think that we are going to last. I don't want to have a baby with a man that I will not be spending the rest of my life with. Should I get an abortion? Will we get over this rough patch in our relationship?

[specialmom]

Dear, it takes two.  Yes, you need self control but getting along with a partner doesn't mean shoving your feelings deep inside or being afraid of any confrontation.  If you have to hang onto a man that way--  it won't last.  

I am not sure what to tell you.  If you want to try to save it, then you will have to learn how to communicate with him and him with you.  Will he see a counselor with you?

[mz_mila]

I do want this baby we planned for it and I can care for the baby on my own. I just don't want to deal with having a baby with a man I'm not with its too much trouble. I do see how that's easy to fix and to be honest I do hold back a lot when it comes to my mouth. The way I see it is that I'm only nasty when he pushes my nerves to the maxx and won't listen when I tell him to stop.I don't think that I don't support him in public because that's when it matters most. I love him very much and I showed him up until I got pregnant because im not feeling to well all the time. I am trying my best to make the changes but idk if we will pull through. I want is to because I love that man with all my heart and to think that we could be over is heartbreaking. We have been together for almost 3yrs and have been through what married couples of yrs go through.

[RockRose]

After you wrote that down,  do you see how easy this is to fix?

Act like you love him,  and support him in public.  And when you think mean thoughts don't say them.  

The more you practice that,  the more you actually feel like doing it.  If he's basically a good guy and you want to still be in a relationship with him,  now's the time to suck it up and not say and act like what you are feeling because it's hormonal stuff.

[specialmom]

If there is a chance that you will be alone when you have the baby, a really good chance and you do not desire to be a single mom, then you have two options.  You can either terminate which is a fairly easy procedure but you would want to that sooner rather than later depending on where you are at in your pregnancy.  Or you can give the baby up for adoption.  Both are good options if you aren't sure you want to be a single mother and it is looking more and more that this is the direction that things are headed.  I think it is a smart person that knows their limitations and knows when raising a child would be too much or something they don't really want to do.  But it's a decision that takes careful thought.

I'm happy to help in any way I can.  peace

[mz_mila]

Being that I'm pregnanty emotions are running a little more rampant than usual and because of it he is being distant. He said he feels as if I don't love him anymore and I don't support him in public.

[RockRose]

Why are you getting in such awful fights?  What's happening between you two?