im not sure if what im doing is right, but i love him.

[Arena]

so me and my boyfriend were together for about a year when i found out that he had not only cheated on me but he got his ex girlfriend pregnant.  yes and this was a complete shock to me because i trusted him and believed everything that he said so of course when i heard this i said to myself "no way this cant be possible?" and when i questioned him about the rumor he of course denied it.  I believed him because like i said i trusted him 100%.  Months go by and i looked at this ex's facebook and she had sonogram pics up so this just pissed me off.  In my mind im thinking how come shes trying to ruin his life and why wont she leave us a lone?  More months go by and he finally admits it to me.  I cried and was in complete shock that he would do this to me and ultimitly im super pissed off and mad.  Fast forward into the future his baby was born and he told me we should go out seperate ways.  Hes not with his childs mother that i noe of?  So we stopped talking for a couple months.  I changed my number so i could start over fresh.  I wont lie i missesd him so much but then id think to myself he has his own life now.

I ran into him last week and he was happy to see me which supprised me?  We havent stopped talking and its werid cause we havent discussed the past at all but its like were together again.  We talk all the time and tell eachother we love eachother its just werid but at the same time i love him with all my heart and im so happy hes back in my life.  On the other hand im wondering how long this can last and im not sure if i should be doing cause i might get my hopes up...what should i do?  PLEASE i need some major advice.!!!!

[mami1323]

Wow, this is a tough situation you are in.  He cheated on you with an ex, he then got her pregnant and lied to you for months about it.  Then he dumped you because he wanted to be with the baby's mother?  Or he dumped you for whatever reason he felt like dumping you for.  Then you take him back just like that, as if he didn't commit the ultimate betrayal.  I'm just not understanding the infatuation here.  I don't see what you would get out of this because from what I can see, he really did you a favor by ending it and letting you go so you could meet a man who truly respected you and your relationship.  I'm sorry if I sound harsh but this could never be a good situation.  Could you ever trust him, he still has this child with this woman, which means constant contact no matter what.  I just think you are asking advice from us because you are trying to convince yourself that this is a good thing even though you know it isn't.  I hope you do what's right for you and I wish you good luck because I don't think you deserved what happened to you.

[msniki412]

I hate to admit this but I agree with Teko. He cheated on you before and got his ex pregnant??? Why would you want to be with a guy who cheated on you once?! To me once a cheater always a cheater. You deserve better then that.

[Dee41195]

Don't get involved with this guy again. Once a cheater always a cheater. Always go forward and don't go backwards. Thats my comment. Never looking back is better,sure you had some good times, but leave it at that.

[jo929]

you need to build up your self esteem, think more of yourself than to fall for that line again, he used you once, he will use you again  luck  jo

[Tuckamore]

(Also shaking her head in amazement) I want to be kind but what don't you get? If he would have had the decency to come to you when he cheated with his X and admitted he made a mistake and begged for forgiveness and than been a God until... oh oh she's pregnant.....stepped up to the plate and supported the child while he continued ro be a God to you...never left you...never lied to you and than YOU left him.....than I would say give the guy another chance. But now....Don't follow your heart...follow your head. Girlfriend...kick this guy to the curb before he is telling his current woman that his X (you) are pregnant.
Best of Luck

[treazzure007]

now you dump him and move on to doing other things.  you dont come w/ all that baggage and drama, why should you have a man that does???  you'll get you someone better in the future