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is he lying to me or is it just my imaganation?
hi i i have been married for 4 yrs and i have a 2 yr old baby boy and expecting my second a girl in february 3rd, anyways when i was pregnant with my son my husband would always be getting these wierd phone calls restricted phone calls he would answer and leave the house sometimes he would even take and hour talking and everytime they would call from "restricted" when i would answer the phone they would hang up and he was just actin wierd all the time so i assumed he was cheating on me i confronted him and he of course denied saying no i got really depressed and would be so sad all the time, then my son was born and it seemed everyting changed the calls stopped and he was a loving caring husband again, i once again asked him if he had cheated on me that i would forgive him i just needed to know the truth he said no that it was a guy friend that would just block his number and call him and i left it at that. now once again he is acting wierd again he talks to this guy friend he says but it sounds more like he is talking to a girl iam getting upset again and idont know if its because iam pregnant and imagine things or what please help i really love him but it makes me sad to think if he is doing this to me how is he even capable of looking at his 7 and half pregnant wife who struggles everyday to make him happy and take care of our son and work at the same time. please help with any advices please!!! iam going crazy!!!
I was just chatting with my best friend der and she was tellin me that her and her fella were exchanging x mas gifts. So she walked into his house and he was wearing a santa outfit, had the sittin room decorated to da nines with lights and tinsle and had loads of prenesnts for her!!! Didital camers, westlife album, purfume, dvds and some massaging thing.... Thats love for ya!!!
That's not true hon, because even the woman who are biatches still can get a dirty guy. I think you just have to find someone compatible and trust them when they are trustworthy and break it off when you sense just one red flag going up. We stick around too long and we allow and tolerate things because we feel with our hearts and not think with our heads.
I dont even know what FBI mean i just know they are like the police force.. We dont have it here!! I watch too much CSI to be honest!! lol
Unfortunalely women these days have to be a "sneaky snoop".. its the men, they drive us to it... In my opinion, the nicer a woman is to a man, the more likely he will do the dirty on her... FACT! I was too nice to my ex and he just took the mick big time...
My (new) motto:
"Treat them mean, keep then keen"..
Unfortunalely women these days have to be a "sneaky snoop".. its the men, they drive us to it... In my opinion, the nicer a woman is to a man, the more likely he will do the dirty on her... FACT! I was too nice to my ex and he just took the mick big time...
My (new) motto:
"Treat them mean, keep then keen"..
Haha, FBI...lol. Sometimes you have to be. Our therapist was like, you better watch out for her, she's a master detective. I found out all about the woman he cheated with. I found out where she worked, where she lived, I found her on Facebook and on Match.com. Our therapist said that there is no point in him ever trying to do anything behind my back because I would find out. He calls me a sneaky snoop.
Wow, this is like the FBI!!!
Where were these ideas when I was with the cheating rat lol!!!! Could have came in handy!! My ex used log out of his email if i needed to use comp after him, that way i couldn click back and see if he was chattin to anyone!!! Turns out it was his ex! grrrr! I could have went rambo on her ***!! Still could if I saw her!
Men are such rats, I dont think id be able for all that again!!!
I say do what all the girls are suggesting, dont let any man make u look like a fool! I kick myself everday for it...
Where were these ideas when I was with the cheating rat lol!!!! Could have came in handy!! My ex used log out of his email if i needed to use comp after him, that way i couldn click back and see if he was chattin to anyone!!! Turns out it was his ex! grrrr! I could have went rambo on her ***!! Still could if I saw her!
Men are such rats, I dont think id be able for all that again!!!
I say do what all the girls are suggesting, dont let any man make u look like a fool! I kick myself everday for it...
My fiance was sneaky he used two things that threw me off, his childhood bestfriend who was mom...who would've thought that and he used his first job, which was Masstech, that was another tricky one. I got them both because I had his email passwords and I had his user name emailed to the account than I was able to change the password temporarily and logged in. Then I changed the internal options and used my email address so if he changed the password or anything else, the new one would be emailed to my email account...lol. Don't mess with me. He used to be like, how come you keep finding out my password?...lol.
See i have no problem with accessing any of my husbands accounts, since he used to be in the army, and had to go over seas, he had no choice but to give me full access to his accounts, or else I wouldn't have been able to pay the bills, as he didn't have a computer and worked nights. And since i'm on his phone account, i have the password.
If you are on his cell phone account, if you know his social, birthdate, or account number from the bills, they should give you the password, through your phone. Oh and the secret question 90% of the time, is mother's maiden name, so if you know that most likely they will give you the password
If you are on his cell phone account, if you know his social, birthdate, or account number from the bills, they should give you the password, through your phone. Oh and the secret question 90% of the time, is mother's maiden name, so if you know that most likely they will give you the password
It's still hard to get the phone logs because some companies are very careful with not giving info to even spouses since it violates privacy laws. She can get them if she has his password or sometimes his social but then she may have to answer a security question. I used to get crazy information sometimes because I would have that info and than I would always call with confidence like I was supposed to be calling. If you sound nervous, they may not give you what you need. One time I said that I needed his text messages because he had lost his phone and he had sent a text to the number and we needed to know what number it was (always use we as if your husband knows you are calling them). They gave me everything. Also, I used to call the cell phone company at night while he was sleeping and I would disguise my voice to sound like a man and pretended to be him and I was able to hack into his picture mail account. But you have to be careful with that because they will often give you the password but they will text it at the same time to the phone and if your husband is smart he will question that.
he could lock the door, but even then there are ways to get inside, pound on the door like a minute after he goes in the shower and tell him you really need to go right now(if there are other bathrooms say there's something wrong with the toilet or something lol)
Heck you could even go so far as to change out the doorknobs on the bathroom and then you'll have a key for the door, there's no reason for him to lock himself in the bathroom, that fishy to me too. even if the original door does lock there should be a key to it somewhere.
Oh the keystroke program does work! that's how my friend found out her fiance was cheating, she installed the program and after like a week of it being on the computer she looked through it and there were conversations between her fiance and 2 other women, and he was meeting up with them and everything, so that program does work.
There shouldn't be a problem with calling the phone company to get the call logs, they may be able to email them to you since it's a cell phone. Aren't you on the same account as your married?
Heck you could even go so far as to change out the doorknobs on the bathroom and then you'll have a key for the door, there's no reason for him to lock himself in the bathroom, that fishy to me too. even if the original door does lock there should be a key to it somewhere.
Oh the keystroke program does work! that's how my friend found out her fiance was cheating, she installed the program and after like a week of it being on the computer she looked through it and there were conversations between her fiance and 2 other women, and he was meeting up with them and everything, so that program does work.
There shouldn't be a problem with calling the phone company to get the call logs, they may be able to email them to you since it's a cell phone. Aren't you on the same account as your married?
He probably locks the door, believe me, I know how sneaky men can get. Is he ever on the computer checking emails or his bills? Because they have this softwared called Keystroke and you install it into the computer and it records every key stroke that is made and you can pick up on passwords or on actual conversations that are typed. So you may be able to get onto his phone bill like that. The software is undetectable. The recorder is a great idea. I would definitely try that one. My ex friend's boyfriend once put a recorder in her car and caught her cheating. Or you could follow him and see where he goes when he leaves the house, or hire someone to follow him. I found out about my fiance cheating by luck, so I feel whatever he does in the dark comes to light. You will learn the truth eventually but the more you accuse him or show him that you are suspicious of him, the better he will be at hiding it. Make him feel that you trust him 100% and he will slip up.
Or hell just go in and "pee", and then leave the room with his phone, then you'll find the truth.
Well you could get a recorder for every room lol As for him taking it in the shower, why not just go in there when he's showering, say you gotta use the toilet and then peek. If he catches you, just say "i thought i heard it vibrating, and was going to tell you who it was encase it was an important call, must have been my imagination" and then laugh it off.
well when he takes a shower he takes the phone in with him like just leaves it on the counter before he charged his phone when needed to b charged now he has it at ALL times which really pissies me off. that is a good idea i just dont know where i would set it up as he is in diffrent times and not always in the same room, any other ideas ladies iam desperate to find out the TRUTH once in for all im so tired of this situation but i need evidence please help!!!
I just want to add that he shouldn't get mad at you checking his phone, or looking at his phone. the only reason to be mad about that is if there IS something to hide. if he really keeps his phone on him at all time even when sleeping, try and check it when he's in the shower, he can't keep it on him in there can he?
Also, most men(i say most because their are those that won't do this) but most men, will never admit they have cheated until the evidence is shoved in their face, so IF he has cheated I highly doubt he will ever admit it until you have concrete proof of it.
Since he does leave or go outside when these calls take place, how bout a recorder? I know it's kind of shameful but if you really really want to know what he talking about and get a better sense of who he's talking too, set up(and hide) a recorder(perhaps one that is activated by voice? or just one where you can switch out the tapes or whatever after like 3 hours) where ever it is he usually goes to talk to these mysterious "friends" of his.
Man my mind is way more devious than i thought lol But those may give you some help with finding out the truth, because everything he's doing sounds suspicious to me. If it really was one of his guy friends, why the heck would he have to hide the conversation from you?
Also, most men(i say most because their are those that won't do this) but most men, will never admit they have cheated until the evidence is shoved in their face, so IF he has cheated I highly doubt he will ever admit it until you have concrete proof of it.
Since he does leave or go outside when these calls take place, how bout a recorder? I know it's kind of shameful but if you really really want to know what he talking about and get a better sense of who he's talking too, set up(and hide) a recorder(perhaps one that is activated by voice? or just one where you can switch out the tapes or whatever after like 3 hours) where ever it is he usually goes to talk to these mysterious "friends" of his.
Man my mind is way more devious than i thought lol But those may give you some help with finding out the truth, because everything he's doing sounds suspicious to me. If it really was one of his guy friends, why the heck would he have to hide the conversation from you?
do you girls have any tips in how i could be sneaky to and find out things little by little cause i know he wont tell me anything and my gut tells me hes doing sumtin wrong but my love for him is blinding me i love him so much and dont want to separate my son or my daughter from their father and it hurts me soo bad and love shouldnt hurt people, i confronted him again and he denied everything and said he would never cheat on me and that he loves me and our babies alot and he would never lie to me he gets mad cause i am doubting him who wouldnt with the things his doing i know if i did that he would be super angry and woudnt trust me and he gets all mad when i check his phone, he says that i need to trust him ect, please help anything that can help me be sneaky so i can uncover the truth if he is cheating he doesnt get a second chance his out!!! thats the one thing that i will not tolerate ever!!!! please any advice...
I agree with the ladies here. Your concern is justifiable. Something is not right and we women have the six sense that tells us that something is not right and we have to listen to it. You should be able to look at his phone anytime you want with confidence that you will not find anything fishy. Communication and trust is key in a all relationship, so have a talk with him that due to his suspecious behavior, you no longer trust him and that you are on to him and if he is doing anything out of the marriage that is unexceptable, it will eventually surface (the truth always surfaces) and that you will not hesitate to leave him. Do be afraid to speak up and let him know you are on to him. Good Luck, Judy
I don't know hon, I hate to be a pessamist but it doesn't sound right. I always say go with your gut instincts. If you feel like he's doing something funny, than he probably is. I know a lot of men have issues with being faithful while their wives or gf's are pregnant. I know when my fiance was cheating he was really nasty to me and would be very sneaky with his phone. I was also pregnant at the time. He won't tell you the truth, because most of the time they won't admit to it. Why would he want to lose his family? You may just have to be a super duper detective if you want to know the truth. Either way, even if nothing is going on, his behavior makes you uncomfortable and needs to be addressed.
I'm sorry that you're having to deal with all of this....I don't know if he's telling the truth, but honestly my husband and I have a 100% disclosure policy. I know all of his friends, and he knows all of mine.....if he can't answer the phone right next to me and have the entire conversation with me listening in, I would have a big issue and the same would be the reverse for me on the phone. I'm fine with "his" friends being "his" friends but out of respect to me, he introduces them to me at least once, and he does not leave the room to use the phone unless the baby is trying to sleep.
What your husband is doing seems a little fishy, but even if he's NOT doing something inappropriate, his behavior suggests disrespect. He shouldn't be leaving to talk on the phone; what could he possibly have to say that his wife can't hear? AND this "restricted" number doesn't sound quite right. I don't know if he's cheating, but you need to confront him and ask him to respect you more and stop being so secretive. It's fine to have separate friends but only if your spouse knows and trusts those friends, in my opinion. Talk to him and tell him that you're not accusing him of cheating, but if he would be more up front and stop being so secretive it would go a long way towards helping you KEEP your trust for him.
Good luck hon, I really hope you're just imagining things but even if you're not, he needs to respect you more and stop being so sneaky.
(BTW on the flip-side, my father-in-law does this and he really IS talking to male friends every time he leaves the room....he spends hours talking to his hunting buddies but barely has a word to spare for his wife. I personally couldn't stay in a relationship like that, but my mother-in-law's a saint. so it's possible your husband is like my F-I-L....just thought I would mention :) )
What your husband is doing seems a little fishy, but even if he's NOT doing something inappropriate, his behavior suggests disrespect. He shouldn't be leaving to talk on the phone; what could he possibly have to say that his wife can't hear? AND this "restricted" number doesn't sound quite right. I don't know if he's cheating, but you need to confront him and ask him to respect you more and stop being so secretive. It's fine to have separate friends but only if your spouse knows and trusts those friends, in my opinion. Talk to him and tell him that you're not accusing him of cheating, but if he would be more up front and stop being so secretive it would go a long way towards helping you KEEP your trust for him.
Good luck hon, I really hope you're just imagining things but even if you're not, he needs to respect you more and stop being so sneaky.
(BTW on the flip-side, my father-in-law does this and he really IS talking to male friends every time he leaves the room....he spends hours talking to his hunting buddies but barely has a word to spare for his wife. I personally couldn't stay in a relationship like that, but my mother-in-law's a saint. so it's possible your husband is like my F-I-L....just thought I would mention :) )
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