is my boyfriend addictted to porn can anything be done about this problem?

[21a]

hi i'm kinda having he same problem but i think mines bit worse see i don' mind my boyfriend watching porn now and then but he does it everyday and we don't have sex hardly and we are both still young you see it's not good the way he does it at all i have a 3 year old child and my boyfriend lives with us both and has done for the last 2years and just these last few months i've noticed it's becoming a real big problem he watched it whilst me and my daughter was up and walking round the house he shut the frontroom door and started watching it and i walked in a caught him was not plesant at all i was thinking what if it was my lil girl that caught him it's disgusting he leaves dirty tissue around the house and even does it when we go to hes mums for dinner he wonders off upstairs to the computer and everyones awake and around it just ain't right to be doing that much it's making me feel horrile bout myself ;'( i just wish he would clm down abit and put us first before this i no hes young and so am i but everytime i try to walk away he just won't let me why would someone make you feel this way if they really love you as much as they say please give some advice on what to do

[brice1967]

Personally, I don't have a problem with him viewing porn, but it seems to be a bit excessive to me.  Not to mention that fact that he is a bit bold while doing it.  As you mentioned, having your lil daughter walk in on this activity is NOT what you're looking for.

I'd think most about your daughter at this point.  The environment in which you raise this girl is or should be of the most importance.  You will survive without this guy and his porn, but it would be nice if he could clean it up a bit.

You know the old addage, "wanting your cake and eating it too"?  Really evaluate this situation and make a good conscious decision thinking first of your daughter, then you, then him.  Unfortunately for him, he is last in this equation and should be in consideration of your child.

[kazakage]

Here is what you do....Leave him...Or deal with his obsession to masturbate. porn isn't just the case maybe he like watching more than he likes getting.. on top of that, he has become one of many guys who watch porn simply because he has access to it better than most ppl!
So, yeah he needs some help!

[RainLover71]

Is my boyfriend addicted to porn-YES,Can anything be done about this problem-YES,find a new boyfriend.He obviously has no respect for you ,your kids or his mum.He,s a bad egg and need to seek help because its clearly become an addiction.

[specialmom]

Hi.  Oh, I am sorry your boyfriend is so engrossed in this habit of his.  I think when someone is ignoring their real life partner, doing it every day, doing it when people including kids are around . . . well, it has spilled over into a real issue.  You've been open and aren't anti porn but your warning flags are going off that this is too much and detrimental to your life together.

And I agree.  Sadly, he'd have to admit that it is a problem and give it up.  Like anyone that is obsessed with something, he will probably be in denial and fight you on this.  And to get over it, he might need therapy, treatment, and support networks.  It is a process.  Would he be willing to do this?  And as with any addiction, the abused item is used for reasons beyond the obvious-----------  is he avoiding something, does he have some emotional issues, etc?  If the underlying problem is not conquered, then he is at risk for finding another thing to abuse to create that same 'comfort' that the porn gives him.  

I think you need to start by having a heart to heart and tell him that it  must stop.  You'll know a lot from that conversation.  

Sadly, I think that you may have to move on.  You want to be with a healthy guy that is engaged in his real life------- for your benefit and your daughters.  good luck and let us know how it goes.