loneliest man on earth

[immaculate]

man i dont know what to do anymore its like the more i try i fall more i just cant seem to get a girlfriend im beggining to lose more and more self confidence daily i dont know what to do anymore,its like when i wonna get close to some one they back away i dont wonna be alone anymore but i dont even know where to beggin anymore,but one thing is for sure i know its me....ladies what any seggestions?

[braintrust]

A lot of women in their early 20s just don't want to be tied down long. They meet someone, date them a while, then want to move on to the next guy. I think it's just common in your age group.

Put an ad on a dating site, even a free one like Craiglist, and see what you get. Say you are serious about wanting a girlfriend, you are a nice loving normal guy, and see what responses come in.

Start going things you like to do. Don't go to bars just to "meet women."  Go to some film festivals, go to the theater if you like the theater, or do whatever you like. Exercise and stay in shape, too. Be a good listener. Women love that! :-)

Good luck! It doesn't necessarily get easier as you get older (I think there are lots of screwed up people in every age group who THINK they want relationships and they drag their partners through the mud), but keep working at it and you WILL find a special girl you wants to love you back.

[Myown]

You're very young. You will surely find someone. I agree with sweetpea - join a club, something with group activity that you like doing so that you find someone that has common interests. When you find someone that you are interested in, let her first get to know you before you ask her out. Love is not always in an instant. Love can come in increments. As a matter of fact IMO thats the best way for it to come - roots go a lot deeper then and become near impossible to pull out. The best way to meet someone is when it just happens when you least expect it and then if you find out you have things in common you feel its meant to be, so keep your eyes open and get out there, be friendly and have confidence in yourself. Stop looking at what has not happened yet. If you drive while looking in the rear view mirror you will crash. Forget about what hasn't happened yet and get yourself all happy about what will happen soon. You have your whole life ahead of you, relax:)

[sweetpea03]

I think a lot might have to do with where you are looking to find a date. Try instead of really looking to join something you enjoy. Take a class or join some club, etc and do something you want to do, given that you really enjoy it and others in the class do too, there is already something you have in common. :) I met my bf in a Catholic club we have on campus. Stay positive, you'll find someone.

[younggrandmother]

What is your definition of success? You never know what is going on in someone mind, did someone tell you that you were a failure at relationships or dating or is it you thinking because it did not work out that you are a failure? You can't judge your self by past relationships because every one is different. You never know something may have been going on in their  life's and a relationship with anyone was out of the question.
So please don't give up.
chin-up, have a little faith in your self and most of all have a good time.

[PromisedLand]

Yes, that can make it tough...find some volunteer work you can get involved in or a church with a singles adult group..you'll find that when you least expect it somebody is going to come along...try and get your confidence up...you sound like a good man who wants real love and there are plenty of women out there looking for just that..

I know exactly how you feel because I was there some 11-12 years ago and then all of a sudden...1.5 years later I was married to a wonderful woman

Jim

[immaculate]

yea i understand but its just dat failing so much has shrink my confidence more and more with no success not even one.

[younggrandmother]

    The problem may be that you are trying to hard, it maybe coming across as a little desperate and trying to rush things (that is always a turn off) the best advice is to have self confidence and most of all be happy with yourself. Let things happen slowly, by this I mean start off as friends and then go from there. You have a lot of time, so don't give up, put yourself out there, have fun with no expectations and it will  happen when you least expect it.  

[PromisedLand]

Why do you think they back away? Where do you go to meet women? I'm sure you know it's going to be tough to find a lasting relation ship whilst hanging out at the local watering holes...believe it or not I've heard that grocery stores are a good place to meet women...strick up a conversation over something...why are there so many varieties of orange juice and tell a funny story..they'll either think you're nuts or laugh and you can proceed from there..or perhaps friends can fix you up...that's how I met my wife...I had people woman free for about 5 years when we met and after a year and a half we were married.

It can take time, but you will find someone...keep telling yourself that and be positive about it...try to carry a positive attidue and project a happy, friendly guy...I know it's not easy...but can b donee..

Good luck and keep us posted.


Jim

[Ashelen]

You are young...don't give up hope!!! Love takes patience and time to find, and at 22 you're only just beginning to explore the world outside of your childhood (not trying to sound condescending...I'm only 24, LOL). But truthfully there's no reason to give up hope if you're single at 22!!! At 24 the fact that I'm married makes me the exception to the rule among my friends...most of them are still single.

If you're really determined to get into the dating world I think that some of the men and women on this forum will have a lot of really good advice, but I never dated after high school so my advice is a little out-dated in that category...

all I can say is, don't despair you are SO young and you have SO much time to find the perfect woman to end your loneliness...hang in there and it'll happen :).

[immaculate]

ps..i'm down like the economy