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marriage counseling?
has anyone been to marriage counseling? i'm thinking hubby and i are in desperate need of it. i just don't know where to look for a good counselor. *sigh* any help would be great!!!
After few months of my marriage there were so many problems between me and my husband at that time visited marriage counselors for help and to take right suggestion that help us in resolving the misunderstanding. People who are looking for more information on marriage counselors can visit the site http://www.marriage-counselors.net/.
well we seem to be doing great now. we're communicating more...even if i am cranky. (i can't help it...i'm so tired that i just have a short fuse right now) but we seem to be doing a ok. i'm still pushing for counseling though. i'm hoping with enough of my hints and suggestions he'll just say ok. lol.
i'm trying. this just adds to the stress for us. we try not to think about it but....it's hard not to.
Well let's not worry about it until the time comes. Just try and take it day by day.
if he resigns odds are he will go...which ok...i know he has to. it's his job. but right now...it's NOT his job. *sigh* i'd really suck if he was sent back. i know he hates being away from me and the kids (even if we are fighting he always hated being away from us) and him going to n. korea would just break his heart and mine. this guy from n. korea *****.
Oh hon I'm so sorry. I know it must be hard being a military wife. Well let's just hope and pray that he doesn't have to go.
well this threat from n. korea is starting to add extra stress onto greg and i. him being a marine (even though he was discharged he still has to serve 4 years inactive duty) he may be shipped out if it does turn into a war and it gets bad enough. *sigh* why does n. korea have to be so ......STUPID!!! GAH!
i'm still asking him about counseling. i'm not going to stop until he agrees and i'll make sure it's a man. lol. i'm not scared of him cheating on me. i can tolerate the porn on nights we don't have our "alone time". there are some nights i'm just too damn tired and i understand a man has his needs. i just want him to stop being so nasty and mean. he's such a grumpy puss.
Not any more. But for years I wanted nothing more than for us to be together. Kids had to come first. Life is a journey, you take one hour and day at a time. Dont worry about tomorrow too much, we may not even be here so live for today, it works out in the end. IMO.... Im not so strong, just different battles miami, but thanks for saying that! lol
That is sad. But it sounds like you have no regrets. Probably best thing you did was separate. Especially if it was way to stressful. It's amazing to hear other people's stories. It kind of makes you feel human to know that other's have gone through tough times in life and bounced back. Good for you. No wonder you are such a strong woman.
Yep, I divorced em, I did. All six kids were at home at the time, still fairly small. My hubby worshiped the ground I walked on. He would spend money on me like crazy even when we were behind in the rent or could not pay the utilities. We were evicted every 6 months, thereby putting the kids in a different school each year. It was not that I did not love him but we could not go on living like that. Needless to say with 6 kids at home the only time I could work was the graveyard shift at the local nursing home. I separated from him in order to get help with the electric bill and we never got back together. My current hubby married me after 20 plus years of being a bachelor and being alone. He became an instant dad. Looking back, I let the stress get the best of me. Kids were able to stay in the same school for a few years and I started a beauty shop called The headhunter. I worked 7 days a week until I was able to hire 2 other girls. But I did it!
Holy crapola, that is disgusting. Well there is no way that my fiance is sleeping with our counselor, trust me on that one but yikes that is definitely grounds for getting that woman's license revoked.
Oh and just to add like mami said be careful of the counselor you choose if you do go to counseling. My one friend got her hubby to agree to go to counseling after a year of asking(well let's be honest nagging lol) him about it. Anyways she let him choose the counselor and during the sessions she didn't really feel comfortable with the woman and it turns out that her hubby ultimately cheated on my friend(well i should say again as cheating was the reason for the counseling in the first place) with the person who was supposed to be helping them9i.e the counselor). It was completely insane, like that freaking movie the first wives club(loved that movie though lol). So anyway make sure you are completely comfortable with whoever you choose. Not that that would happen to you as that situation was crazy to say the least!
I feel for you heatherlynn and am glad you and hubby are doing a little better. Me and my hubby have been having problems lately too and it seems to stem from the fact that I'm a stay at home mom and that I don't earn any money or in my irritating husband's words "don't do anything". UGH men are so hard to understand sometimes!
Anyway I hope everything works out for you and the hubby, whatever happens! :)
Anyway I hope everything works out for you and the hubby, whatever happens! :)
So teko, you divorced your husband and you think you should of stayed with him? Our counselor takes his side most of the time and it drives me bonkers. She's taking the side of the one who cheated...ain't that hysterical. Just make sure you have a counselor who can remain unbiased.
teko (lol)...I know...I'm still asleep. This is a bad dream right! your all in my dream...I'm still asleep or I am having nightmares..telling me to get a life...I'm on this website too much :)
I figured out what happened! I had not brushed my teeth or combed my hair yet either. Must have been bad breath!
like a pit bull...oh, no, I have to be careful what I say....I need a drink this time (lol).
I got deleted? Whaaa! All I said was I needed a cup of coffee and would get back to ya! Geesh! Or was it the part where I said to play nice that did it? Now how did that offend anyone!
Heatherlynn, I have been to marriage counseling. In my case the counselor did not like my hubby from the get go and after 2 sessions told me he was NEVER gonna change and that either I needed to leave the relationship or live with it! I paid her big bucks for that advice too! I did divorce him and looking back on it? Should a stayed..... Food for thought is all this is... I hope you get to read this one before it mysteriously takes a hike?
Heatherlynn, I have been to marriage counseling. In my case the counselor did not like my hubby from the get go and after 2 sessions told me he was NEVER gonna change and that either I needed to leave the relationship or live with it! I paid her big bucks for that advice too! I did divorce him and looking back on it? Should a stayed..... Food for thought is all this is... I hope you get to read this one before it mysteriously takes a hike?
People's lives are not comparable. Some people may have had similar experiences but to try and say your issues are even close to heatherlynn's is simply ridiculous. You can't take the fact that people are not agreeing with you. You are too cowardly to face the facts that what you did and what you are continuing to do are wrong. You can't even take people disagreeing with you and therefore delete your entire post. Don't come on someone else's and try to insinuate that their life is just as dysfunctional as yours. heatherlynn is aware of her marital issues and is looking to fix her marriage, she isn't looking to trick her husband into getting her pregnant to hold on to him. You know I posted about my relationship issues (because lord knows mine is far from perfect), I got responses that hurt me or that I didn't like but I didn't go on attack mode. I listened and took people's advice and thanked them for caring enough about me to even say the things they said. So why don't you stop and think for a minute and absorb people's advice rather than get so defensive.
my husband and i may be having problems but i didn't go an abort our children when i was mad at him. i'm not trying to trick him into getting me pregnant. we're having typical marital problems that i would like to resolve. our marriage is not failing. in fact since our fight we had last week things have been better. we're communicating more. but it does help that i didn't kill our children and then go and try to get him to impregnate me again.
so don't EVEN compare my marital issues with your and your b/f's issues. yours are FAR worse than mine.
so don't EVEN compare my marital issues with your and your b/f's issues. yours are FAR worse than mine.
I think most men run from the idea of therapy. They think it's pointless or they get defensive with someone pointing out their flaws. I believe it's the only way to help a marriage. People don't change overnight and it's very hard to change a person. You can't change them, they have to want to change for themselves. I would give him an ultimatum at this point. Tell him you are unhappy and you really don't want to see this marriage crumble and for the sake of the boys you want to work through these issues but if he refuses to see a counselor with you, you don't think it will work. Like I said, don't say this in the heat of an argument.
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