Hi there. Well, I think you've buried under the carpet who your husband really is. You know the truth deep down but selectively focus on other things. This 15 year old child is a reminder, a glaring reminder of who your husband really is . . . a cheater. It's certainly in no way the child's fault. That child has suffered not having a father all these years. And the woman he was with also may not have known about you. Or was in the same position you were when you had bad judgment being with your husband all those years ago.
I totally understand wanting this to just go away so you can continue the life you have that ignores what your husband has done. But that isn't reality. He has a child out there that deserves something from him. And you knew--- KNEW this was the man you married. A habitual cheater. And therefore, it would be so unfair to make this about you. It's really about this girl who needs him to step up. Focus on that and maybe it will make things easier.
Yes, your kids will know that there dad is who he is. Others may know. There is no hiding it. But that's on him. He made his bed so to speak. THIS exposure is the consequence. And it seems to bother you more than him. Why is that?
I'm sorry that You find YourSelf in this situation but since the Child is His He must step up to the plate - He's obligated.
You have a choice to make - accept it or leave it - 'cuz You can't have it both ways. This is strictly an either/or situation but none of this is the Child's fault.
Hi, what exactly do you mean by "i know he wants to know her" as this seems to be your issue. What do you mean "know" her?