marriage

[pattycake930]

I was with a married man on and off for 7years.  he was in the service lost contact  got back in touch this year. I went to see him and spent some time for one day.  Then when I was their I was being rused to go home early.  I took a bus to see him.  Then recently I had this vision about him and another woman that he was seeing. I emailed him about and he said their is no one I think I will stay with my wife.  And marriage should be scared you think.  That hurted me so bad it just shows u what kind of man he was to me.  My question why would a married man come out and waste a person time.  And keep them on old for 7years.  I lost contact with him and found him.  through email.  I found out that some men will tell u anything to hold on to u like a string.   And get what they want from u.

[Londres70]

Will have to agree with Kayannaboo and TTinKKerBBell.  They said it better than I could.  

I have had so many friends in my life who have done this and the situation always is bad for the "woman on the side."  Most men NEVER leave their wives.  

Best of luck.  

[specialmom]

Hi.  Well, yes-------- people often do lie in life.  And a married man is a prime example.  He lies to the woman he is married with and he lies to the woman he cheats with.  Chalk this up to a life lesson.  Don't ever put yourself in that position again.  Finding him after all these years makes me think perhaps you haven't moved on with your life and now is the time. Carve out YOUR place in this world.  Do not let yourself enter into that kind of situation again and if you think you have a subconscious pattern of being with unavailable men---------  please go see a therapist.  They can work on that so you can choose a partner that is open to what you want in life (with you and not someone else).  Okay----  sorry you are hurting but move on and know that you have control over who is in your life and what happens with them.  Peace.

[TTinKKerBBell]

SweetHeart - Brace YourSelf for this observation:  This man did not "waste" Your time (there are other words besides "waste time" to explain what He did!!)   YOU wasted Your OWN time.  He was married and You knew it.  What in the world were You thinking???
And
You make the statement  #1   "married should be sacred you think"
                                      #2   "it just shows you what kind of man he was to me"

Well, You know what?  This statement also describes You:
#1  You didn't hold marriage sacred either!!
#2   It shows what kind of woman You are too!!

And, yes, there ARE men who will tell You anything to get You in bed.  First clue is: if He's already married what he says to You is suspect.
There are many single men out there, find one, chances are better to build a future with a man who isn't ALREADY married.

You cannot blame him for Your role in this.  You, and only You, are responsible for Your own behaviors and Your own choices.  

[Kayannaboo]

What exactly did you expect to get out of this MARRIED man? He was married to an actual person, you had not even the slightest clue that he might just want something but had no intentions of leaving his wife? You did this to yourself, you cannot get attached to something that doesnt belong to you and I know I sound like a ***** right now but it's reality check time. The man decided he wanted to make things right with his wife and you are left standing in the dust. It happens people go outside of their marriage and they decide it's not worth it, they want to work on the marriage, they rediscover their love for their significant other. Women should value themselves, getting involved with somebody who already has somebody is bad enough but when they are LEGALLY committed that is just a bad kettle of fish.