my girlfriend left me and took the dog

[treetop79]

my girlfriend left me in January, since then I declared myself sick and took 7 weeks off work (worked shifts 6am-2pm 1 week and 2pm-10pm the next), before then I had a lot of problems,Depression, anxiety, Insomnia, to much gaming, I got angry a lot, my life was a mess and even tho I tried to change it I knew something had to give and my girlfriend leaving me was what bought me to my knees in a sobbing mess...

Now iv been back at work since the 4th of march iv been granted a permanent 2pm till 10pm shift to help with my insomnia which was hard to cope with when working alternating shifts, iv also been prescribed 15 mg mirtazapine to help with anxiety depression, but I don't really like taking antidepressants and im very very gradually lowering my dose.

in a nutshell guys, I feel lonely,sometimes hopeless, afflicted, I get this feeling in my tongue which can make speech difficult sometimes ( its one of the worst symptoms I really don't like and its anxiety,insomnia related) I don't know who I can turn to for help anymore, I don't have any real friends who care or understand what im going through,i feel so alone with my problems, I need help and support, I want to feel normal again, just back to my old self but this time a whole lot wiser.... I just hope that soon il start to feel better and all the horrible things im afflicted with now will gradually lift away and il feel somewhat normal again...

im struggling still, iv tried to get in touch my ex but its useless shes blocked me out and its just useless,
can anyone give me any advice on how im suppose to deal with this kind of situation?

[BrayBeanieBaby1214]

just worry about your self. Maybe being alone will give you time to reflect on your self and what you want. Being in a relationship you have to think about the two of you and what both of you want. Nows your chance to step back and think about what you want. It's tough going through a break up. Me and my ex took different paths about 2 months ago and he's already moved on, I was hoping me and him could work things out but it didn't happen that way. I'm taking my time to go back to school and work on my relationship with God. Just take my advice and see it in a positive way rather than a negative way. It won't be easy but It'll be worth it. Hang in there.

[Paxiled]

The above that suggested therapy is the best post.  You don't need medication yet, you need to learn to move on, and work on all those issues.  The most important thing is that you like yourself, not that your ex likes you.  And never take off work when you have mental difficulty from a breakup -- that just leaves you too much time to think about it.  And a dog is always great.  

[treetop79]

id love to have a dog but not sure if my landlord would let me but thanks for your reply il try to stay positive although it hard for me at the moment im really struggling  

[treetop79]

Thanks m8 that's a great way of looking at it, il try to see the logic in my thoughts

[Londres70]

Therapy on board?  No support from family?  

"I got angry a lot, my life was a mess and even tho I tried to change it I knew something had to give and my girlfriend leaving me was what bought me to my knees in a sobbing mess..."............Sounds like you weren't in a good place to have a gf to begin with.  I am sure the situation was draining her.

Get busy with making yourself a better person.  What are your hobbies?  Join a support group for people dealing with issues such as yourself.  

Allow your ex to move on with her life.  If you love her or care about her you want her happy even if it isn't/wasn't with you.  NO texting, calling or visiting her.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, deal with it this way. This has happened to millions of people and is just one of those things that you have to suck up and accept this fact that shes gone. Its just another of lifes experiences and why this happened to you is from the lifes path that you are (were) on. Its also a leaning experience and sure it wont happen again as the pain is to great.