need a anwer??

i been talking wuith this women allot on the phone and online..havent met yet..but this girl i knew before her wants to get together to have wild sex..i havent had sex in 9 weeks...would it be so bad to have sex with thuis ladie..and still have feelings for someone i havent even met yet./...this is hard for me to thank on..this other girl is 43 im 46..shes thick about 200..im 250....but she likes me alot we been just freinds though now shes wanting more than rthat..she knows nothing about my other friend.....its kinda not the sex that attracts me to her but 9 weeks is way to long so it will happen...let me know..i feel bad like a whoredog..ive never done this to anyone,,i would thank that if i did then i would feel bad and end up telling the girl i havent met yet..????????????????????????

[mami1323]

Why do you NEED to have sex?  Honestly 9 weeks isn't that long.  Here's my opinion on the situation, take it or leave it.  You are not committed to either, so therefore, you can sleep with whomever you want.  The friend who wants more than a friendship will become complicated.  Since once you have sex with her, she will like you even more and you will wind up hurting her if you don't want to move the relationship forward.  It doesn't matter either, if you are upfront and tell her that there will be no relationship of any sort after sex.  Women hear what you say but hope for something more.  If you are interested in the woman you are talking to online, then I would hold out and see where that goes.  If you do wind up developing a relationship with her, you may feel badly about what you did with the other woman and if she were to ever find out, she would think less of you.  But there is no exclusivity there and you don't know where it will lead.  So I don't know if I've even answered your question but maybe given you some food for thought.

[teko]

Seriously? Sex is used as a tool to rope you in. Sounds to me like you care more about your sexual demands than you do either one of these women. Uncomplicate the situation and remember god gave you two hands.