not in love anymore...

[jazmin03]

I been with my boyfriend for 10 months. Lately our relationship has been VERY bumpy. I love him but im not in love with him anymore. He has put me through so much, we're always breaking up and getting back together, no matter what we always end up running back to eachother. We got back together yesterday morning after being broken up for 2 days. But i dont think i can do this anymore. I dont trust him at all but he says hes willing to show me that i can trust him...but i dont think that trust can ever be gained back. I told him this will be his last chance. So i need some advice, should i try to believe in him & see if i can fall in love again...or should i just end it. I really do care about him and i would like for this to work but im not so much in love anymore. Can anyone give me advice please?

[specialmom]

To me, it sounds like your head knows what you need to do.  It's just hard.  But this clearly isn't working and the sooner you end it for good, the sooner you can get on with your life.  I know it's hard to rip the band aid off, hurts even.  But once the wound gets some air, it will heal.  (sorry for the long analogy there.  ha ha).  So, take care of yourself first and move on.  good luck

[Lozboz12]

Hello.. I've been through a similar situation recently. But what I have learnt from this is that life is too short.. You are number one and your feelings should come first! I know it's hard and honestly he will always be in your heart and you will always care for him but you have to do what you think is best.

A good quote is; sometimes holding on hurts more then letting on.

This quote really helped.. Hope you can put your feelings first ! X

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, what is the trust issue about? Couples that fight alot are most often oppisite personalities but opposits can atract if the energy and opionions can be but in a good direction. When hes down your up and when your down hes up.

[jazmin03]

Yes our personalities are complete opposite... But its mostly trust that is the issue. At the beginning of our relationship i saw some flirty messages between him and a girl on facebook. I confronted him about it but he kept denying it. So i thought "ok well maybe i should let this go since they are just messages & its not like he had sex with her". So i let it go but throughout the whole relationship theres been red flags like that. And about 2 months ago this thing happened where i was at his house hanging out with him then i saw him being on his phone a lot so i asked "who are you texting?" he said "nobody" but obviously he was texting somebody so i told him to let me go thru his phone and he said no...so obviously he was hiding something. He made up a story as to why he didnt wanna let me see his phone but i didnt believe him so we broke up but a week later he came back begging for another chance and i love him so i gave him another chance.