porn

i cannot take it anymore ,  my husband is all about porn :( i feel like im ugly .. like everything is done ...is impossible to talk to him ....  

[krunal3877]

what do you mean ? why do u have to feel ugly................?
its his problem......!

[Judy246]

The foundation of a relationship is communication and trust. Porn has become an epidemic in our society in a negative way, just read all  post here on the forum with the concerns about how the relationship is being effect negatively...many people posting on negative effects of porn. Porn has a way of sucking in the view to where in the majority of cases is there sexual fantasy, but it reaches a point where they can't stop and would rather masturbate to porn than have sex with g/f or in your case wife. Porn is destructive to the very core of family value, it's serving, inmoral and know "sin of the flesh". Some people wills say, watch it with him, but how much porn can you watch and there is absolutely nothing "beautiful" about porn, but pure lustful sex. If I were you I would straigh out tell him how you feel and if you dont' get a response, straight out...me or porn and I would gladly go and take everything with me! Good luck

[Judy246]

oh...porn is considered adultery, because he is looking at other women with lust and commits adultery if masturbating to another woman even if it's visual he has lust in his heart so yes, it is adultery if married, breaking sacrament vows and commandment.

[rosita18]

well  wen u have a husband that only looks at porn , and don give **** if u there or not , u feel  down like u are no beautiful  .. this is done ,,  :( i have talked to him manys times he gets very mad at me like at im crazy to think that porn is bad for a relationship... for me here and there is ok but everyday >??????  

[softandsweet]

I will tolerate men and porn because females are rascals.

I will tolerate men and porn because females have never helped me in any situation.  Every Female i thought was a friend has back-stabbed me and been so competitive with me.  
Porn or no porn I like men better.  Women are way to competitive.  I have cared about and tried to help so many gals.  No more.  Give me a porn using man for a friend or boyfriend over any female.  

[Judy246]

If it bother's you, you have the right as his soulmate, partner to express how you feel and if doesn't care how you feel then he is not respecting you as his partner or person and that is being selfish and self centered. If I were you, I would lay it on the line, "Your viewing of porn has reach a point where it's affecting me, so what are you going to do about it, if he dares tell you too bad, teach him a leason...make a plan where you are going to go and leave...I'm not kidding, make a plan, because I would tell him, me or the porn and if he dares disrespect me, I will show him what he can do with his porn and shove it where the sun doesn't rise.  Judy

[p527]

rosita , I wish I could help, but I think only you can do that. Sounds to me like you love him to much and don't want to lose him. Besides feeling ugly (no one can look like those girls)you'll figure he thinks he's with them when he's with you. When that kind of porn doesn't work anymore he might find sick animal videos. Then when you go somewhere he'll want you to wear a skirt  and sit just right so other guys will look at you. Then play head games. Later he may even want you to go with other people. By then you'll feel like you sold your soul. You may still have the man you love, but everything you are is gone.

Right now you may not lose him, but will you ever really have him. Your so young and life can last so long. When your ready you'll know what to do.

[Julie359]

Ohh hun, i know how u feel with this one, i was in a relationship where my partner kept porno dvd's and use to watch them on a regular basis, it made me feel extremely unhappy and made me feel worthless...... he thought also he wasn't doing anything wrong so u know what i did, i left him.  I gave him a choice, he either respected me and the fact that i felt so incrediably uncomfortable with this actions or i leave him. He told me not to be so stupid and i was the one being disrespectful because i had to understand his needs more and so i told him to **** off..... simple as, yes i loved him so very much but i love myself more and if he couldn't make that commitment to me that i had to him then he wasn't worth my love and so he can go be with someone else who didn't mind his extra activity.  

Ohh and by the way it was the best thing i ever did.  So really sit down and think about what u really want out of a relationship and ask urself how happy u are, by the sounds not very, and ask urself how much longer u can go on like this with him and then if ur unsatified with the answers then u need to take action.....Get urself someone who respects u and doesn't make u feel ugly but the most beautiful person in this world..... U dam right deserve to feel that way