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got a friend and she seems to have a problem with her boyfriend the man is loving and caring,but hardly ever has time for her excuse he is working long hours always tired but he makes time to go drinkng but no time for her,here is tyhe story she love being intimate but with her partner not around makes it hard but i like she that she is still faithful.Now the deal is whenevee they do make out the guy does not go for to long worst part he only goes once and then his tired,tried telling her to take initiative but she says the guy tells her that he is tired he works long hours needs to rest.She can't even go spend the night because she knows she wont be satisfied at the end of the day.Question is what is wrong with this guy?,what should i tell my friend as she asked for advice,told her to go ahed and speak to him but the guy is super sensitive snaps at everything.
From what I'm hearing. It sounds like he is cheating on her. Your guy should always make time for you and spend time with you rather your tired or not. She needs to break up with him. I wouldnt want to see her hurt anymore. There is someone out there who will make the time for her without thinking twice about it. Someone who will treat her like a Queen. She doesnt need him. Best of Luck!!!
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Hi there. Well, I appreciate that you are trying to be a good friend. But here's the thing . . . everyone has to find their own way, make their own decisions. Unless she ASKS you what to do, she's not really wanting advice but rather to vent. Venting should be safe to do without everyone fixing our problems (in our real life . . . ).
She sees 'something' in him. She's hanging around for this treatment. And since she is doing that---- it is either pleasing in some way to her OR she has some issues with boundaries, setting a high bar for someone so she gets a quality partner, etc. SHE would need to see the second one in order to do meaningful work on that to fix it. SHE has to kind of find her way in terms of getting respect in a relationship.
Hard being a friend to someone struggling but that's what we do, right?. good luck
She sees 'something' in him. She's hanging around for this treatment. And since she is doing that---- it is either pleasing in some way to her OR she has some issues with boundaries, setting a high bar for someone so she gets a quality partner, etc. SHE would need to see the second one in order to do meaningful work on that to fix it. SHE has to kind of find her way in terms of getting respect in a relationship.
Hard being a friend to someone struggling but that's what we do, right?. good luck
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