saying she's pregnant but i think she's lying

[wcc963]

I supposedly got this girl that i was with for a very short time pregnant back in January according to her. I'm 22 and she's 21. She said she didn't want it and had already scheduled an abortion for the following week. We were on good terms then and we were communicating through text during the week and the process of the abortion because I couldn't be in attendance. She told me how she was feeling like crap and bleeding out cause of the pills she was given. She then mentioned that she had the Nuvaring put in, which through my research they will not put in if the woman is pregnant so I don't know if she lied to me about all that.

some background on her, all of this comes from talking to her over the past 3 months or so. she is 21, has a 2yo son that she had from a marriage when she was 18. she was dating a guy at her work about a year ago but only for about a month according to her, but they continued to fool around for a long time after that. she got pregnant from him and had an abortion. but is still in contact with him and spends a lot of time with him. she says she has slept with 25 guys in her life

We had a fight the other day, i called her some colorful names and she all of a sudden brought it up saying she never got the abortion and is still pregnant and claims its mine. When I asked her to get a paternity test to prove that the child is mine she refused, and has continued to refuse. she would be 9 weeks along now. She is telling me she doesn’t want me in her life at all and barely answers my questions through text. I have talked to my mother and a few close friends who know her as well, they all think she's lying. I have save our most recent texting session, nothing before that though :/

if you need/want any extra info or clarity please let me know

[Londres70]

Ditto Nursegirl.  

I am not sure why you won't let this go.  You got the answers you needed.

Is there something I am missing?  

Move on and be done......that's what a rational person would do.

[nursegirl6572]

Quite a tale.

I have a question...why would you check on her in a month?  She blatantly lied to you and was dramatic about it to cause stress for YOU.  She's not pregnant and I'll bet never was...I bet there was no abortion, no anything.  She sounds like an attention seeker, and a liar.

Stay AWAY from her comepletely...dont call her, text her, answer any attempts she makes to communicate with you.  Be DONE with this.  To continue to want to contact her or "check on her" is just odd, IMO.  She's NOT pregnant.  You HAVE to let this go.  People have been telling you that all along, yet you've been keeping this going...you claimed because you wanted to know if you were going to be a dad....well you know now...I think YOU kind of like the drama too, personally.

If her parents knew NOTHING about any of this, when she said she told them about all of it, she's 200% a liar, and nothing else.  With all due respect, you'd be absoluteLY FOOLISH to go anywhere near her, she cannot be trusted.  Next, she'll claim rape, and you'll be in jail.  Someone who lies about big things like that has an issue...for your own safety, stay away!!

Good luck!

[wcc963]

oh and to your statement about the 2 months 1 week... according to the calender im sure she meant 9 weeks (which would have been Wednesday according to her)

[wcc963]

ok, so i went to her parents house. both remember me from thanksgiving which i was surprised because her mom was a bit drunk that night. her dad was on the way out to work when i arrived and i just got down to it.

i explained that their daughter was claiming to be pregnant and saying i was the father, she(the daughter) said she told you(the parents) about this and that she was going to have an abortion. as it turns out she never told them the whole truth. the day of the abortion she told her mom she wasn't feeling well when she went to their house, but nothing about being pregnant. her mom was real cool about it, and called her. had a short conversation with her on the phone and the last thing she said was "are you going to have a baby?" me and my mom, who went cause we were going out to dinner for my birthday after o_O I know crazy right... but after her mom asked her the question we all heard her say a definite "no" now her mom says they're really close and she doesn't lie to her but she did about the abortion when she said she wasn't feeling well.

but that was a no. she has been texting me and not giving me a definite answer. always avoiding the questions. she wanted everything to happen on her terms, quoting "my terms or no terms, end of story" i replied "end of story" lol if she ever wants to talk, shes going to have to come to my house on my terms. but again, thank you for everyone for taking time out of your day to respond to my problems. im glad i found this site (by accident really) but everyone here has really helped me a lot.

i may not have seen eye to eye with everyone or thought the same ideas were the best thing to do but im glad i go to see both sides of the coin before making my decisions. some of you may think that im just young and dumb and didn't listen to you but u have been reading and re-reading every response on here as they were posted and having it influence my decision or at least take into serious affect and talk over with my mom before proceeding. so again, thank you everyone for your help and support.

I'm 95% sure im not going to be a dad, and that shes not pregnant. but i will check on her in a month or so just to be absolutely sure (see her and look to see if she's showing)... but for now i have told her to stop texting me and leave me alone.

[RockRose]

wcc,  I hope the evening went okay for you and you got the answers you were looking for.  

[Londres70]

Perhaps her parents should know what their daughter is doing and then maybe, MAYBE the truth will come to light.  

What is surprising to me is that there is MORE birth control available nowadays, but more unplanned/unwanted pregnancies.