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shes lieying to me
I'm 17 years old boy and my girlfriend is 18. we dated for 3 months and we had sex about 8 times in those 3 months. she's on birth control and I always used a condom and in those 8 times we had sex I only started ejaculating at the last 3 times we had sex. We broke up 3 weeks later and the following day after we broke up she's texting me saying that she's pregnant. I asked her how she found out and she said she was at the hospital and that the doctor confirmed that she's pregnant. she showed me her health passport and it was written that she is really pregnant but something was not right on the card, firstly the handwriting did not seem to be like a doctor's one and secondly there was no stamp but on the side I think she is somehow pregnant because she have been getting dizzy and vomiting and claiming to have stomach pains or maybe she is just faking everything. its almost 3 months now and the belly is not showing. the question is what must I do to know if she is really pregnant or not??? please help me I really need to find out the truth before it's too late.
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COMMUNITY LEADER
Well, I personally do commend a 17 year old who made great effort on his protection choices and would say he did the next best thing to abstinence. Two forms of birth control is making a valiant effort to be responsible. Hope it worked and she's making the whole thing up.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Nothing like stories such as your brothers to bring home the fact that some people are just not right in the head and heart.
It does sound like she is faking.
And I'll say again, at 17---- your concern for having responsible sex and using birth control is admirable. Don't ever get lax with that. good luck (and birth control really does work the majority of the time).
It does sound like she is faking.
And I'll say again, at 17---- your concern for having responsible sex and using birth control is admirable. Don't ever get lax with that. good luck (and birth control really does work the majority of the time).
my exhusbands girlfriend used the same trick, almost item by item..When asked to present the child for a DNA test, she said she didn't want to hurt the baby and did not show up for the test. 12, honest, 12 men were named by her as the father. One actually matched about the time that the infant turned 8 years old.
Wishing you the very best
M
Wishing you the very best
M
I do hope the best for you and I hope you do find out the truth. Because of how rare it is to get pregnant while on the pill and using condoms I recommend a DNA test, but, just because it is rare doesn't mean it won't happen.
My brother (23yrs old) was conceived while using two types of birth control and so was I (20yrd old)
My brother (23yrs old) was conceived while using two types of birth control and so was I (20yrd old)
Then she is bluffing in my opinion.
Tell her to contact you WHEN and IF a baby comes.
I would be a bit more picky and choosy about who you are having sex with even if protection is involved. If you were my son I would tell you to abstain completely from sex being that you are only 17.
There is a lot more involved with sex then just protection.............emotions and feelings are also involved as well and unfortunately these situations arise when someone doesn't want to let go and you do.
Tell her to contact you WHEN and IF a baby comes.
I would be a bit more picky and choosy about who you are having sex with even if protection is involved. If you were my son I would tell you to abstain completely from sex being that you are only 17.
There is a lot more involved with sex then just protection.............emotions and feelings are also involved as well and unfortunately these situations arise when someone doesn't want to let go and you do.
BC does has a failure rate and that's even when it is used properly. The failure rate is of course higher when it isn't being used properly.
Ask her if you may go to the physician appointments with her and see what she says.
Just because she has no belly doesn't mean she isn't pregnant. There are those few that can wear their regular clothing until they are further along.
My gut feeling is that this is a ruse. Another possibility is that she is pregnant, but it isn't yours.
Just curious..............did you break up with her?
Ask her if you may go to the physician appointments with her and see what she says.
Just because she has no belly doesn't mean she isn't pregnant. There are those few that can wear their regular clothing until they are further along.
My gut feeling is that this is a ruse. Another possibility is that she is pregnant, but it isn't yours.
Just curious..............did you break up with her?
I also think it's very unlikely she's pregnant, although I admit I don't understand what a health passport is.
If it's been 3 months since she announced to you that she's pregnant (which would make her about 4 months pregnant) and she's not looking thick, I think you can begin to relax.
If it's been 3 months since she announced to you that she's pregnant (which would make her about 4 months pregnant) and she's not looking thick, I think you can begin to relax.
I too appreciate great effort for protection
but. none the less,
I feel strongly that we might and should refrain from sex with someone (anyone) we are not prepared to equally/mutually commit to; if we are not prepared for the responsibility if, in fact, a Baby does result -
BECAUSE
sex IS for procreation - that it 'feels' good is a bonus, it's 'encourages' us to procreate. When sex was 'invented' there was no such thing as birth control,
or std's, or herpes, or HIV, etc., etc.
"protection" is not 100% safe to prevent disease or Babies, but abstinence is.
just because we have become a promiscuous society does not mean that promiscous - ness is the best choice - I think abstinence is the better choice, until we have met that person that we are willing and ready to procreate with if a pregnancy results.
That being said, I too hope it worked and She's making the whole thing up but there still abstinence is the only wat to totally protect HimSelf in the future.
but. none the less,
I feel strongly that we might and should refrain from sex with someone (anyone) we are not prepared to equally/mutually commit to; if we are not prepared for the responsibility if, in fact, a Baby does result -
BECAUSE
sex IS for procreation - that it 'feels' good is a bonus, it's 'encourages' us to procreate. When sex was 'invented' there was no such thing as birth control,
or std's, or herpes, or HIV, etc., etc.
"protection" is not 100% safe to prevent disease or Babies, but abstinence is.
just because we have become a promiscuous society does not mean that promiscous - ness is the best choice - I think abstinence is the better choice, until we have met that person that we are willing and ready to procreate with if a pregnancy results.
That being said, I too hope it worked and She's making the whole thing up but there still abstinence is the only wat to totally protect HimSelf in the future.
You reiterate that You never had unprotected sex
I can only repeat:
There is TWELVE to FIFETEEN% failure rate for condoms
and
EIGHT% failure rate for birth control pills
The ONLY thing that can offer ONE HUNDRED% is abstinence.
I can only repeat:
There is TWELVE to FIFETEEN% failure rate for condoms
and
EIGHT% failure rate for birth control pills
The ONLY thing that can offer ONE HUNDRED% is abstinence.
COMMUNITY LEADER
First, I do commend you for being responsible and working hard to make sure you had protected sex each and every time. Keep doing that. This would make her being pregnant in the category of VERY rare. Birth control pills and condoms do the trick in 99.9 percent of the time. But, you don't really know if she was taking her birth control correctly or all so it may just have been the condoms standing between you and pregnancy. But that really is usually enough. So! You've done nothing wrong.
Are you saying that you need to know now so that if she is, you can convince her of having an abortion? Well, if she is saying she is pregnant now and this is your vote on what she does with the pregnancy, then you can ask her to do that now. It sends a clear message regarding how you feel. And at 17, I certainly don't blame you for not wanting a baby!! Yikes. So, you can have that conversation with her. You can ask her if she would consider adoption as well. Either way, you are then free to just go on about life.
If she says no to either of these---- and you still wonder if she is pregnant, then just wait. You aren't her boyfriend. So, you don't need to hold her hand during a pregnancy. If she chooses to go forward, let her do so. And if a baby is ever born, you ask for a DNA test if she is trying to involve you. If it is your kid, then you decide what to do. She can ask for child support. And you will probably feel a need to be in your child's life. But that is way down the road. She very well may not even be pregnant or NOT pregnant with your child (perhaps she cheated on you since you were so diligent with birth control). Talk to her one last time telling your thoughts on if she really is pregnant. Then ride it out.
Young women rarely show at 3 months. The beauty of young, strong muscles that hole everything in for a good long time. With my first pregnancy, I was about 5 and a half months before I had any noticeable bump.
Anyway, hang in there. I hope she is NOT pregnant since you worked hard with the birth control. good luck
Are you saying that you need to know now so that if she is, you can convince her of having an abortion? Well, if she is saying she is pregnant now and this is your vote on what she does with the pregnancy, then you can ask her to do that now. It sends a clear message regarding how you feel. And at 17, I certainly don't blame you for not wanting a baby!! Yikes. So, you can have that conversation with her. You can ask her if she would consider adoption as well. Either way, you are then free to just go on about life.
If she says no to either of these---- and you still wonder if she is pregnant, then just wait. You aren't her boyfriend. So, you don't need to hold her hand during a pregnancy. If she chooses to go forward, let her do so. And if a baby is ever born, you ask for a DNA test if she is trying to involve you. If it is your kid, then you decide what to do. She can ask for child support. And you will probably feel a need to be in your child's life. But that is way down the road. She very well may not even be pregnant or NOT pregnant with your child (perhaps she cheated on you since you were so diligent with birth control). Talk to her one last time telling your thoughts on if she really is pregnant. Then ride it out.
Young women rarely show at 3 months. The beauty of young, strong muscles that hole everything in for a good long time. With my first pregnancy, I was about 5 and a half months before I had any noticeable bump.
Anyway, hang in there. I hope she is NOT pregnant since you worked hard with the birth control. good luck
What do You mean: "before it's too late" ??
If You don't want to make Babies You must not have sex as that's how Babies are made !! - and there is NO birth control that is 100% fail safe.
Time will show if She's truthful about being pregnant and DNA will tell if You're a Daddy
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