so fed up!!!! rant warning!!!

[danbaby88]

well me and my so called bf have been together for 3 years we have a 7 month old sob together and i have a 6 yr old. well anuways tonight ive given him money to go out and hes totally started being an a$$ and brung his friends bk drinkin bearing in mind my sister is down and sleeping infront room with my eldest son.. woke us all up.. is trying to start arguementd with me.. im just so upset about his behaviour.. plus i have to work to support us as he wont.. he has our son while im working but doesnt do any house work or cleaning as its my job apparently.. im just stressed to max want him gone but he always mentally abuses me some times hes so aggressive.. he isnt the man i fell in love with.. sorry for going on im just one cranky mumma whos fed up with having M*G written on my forhead

[nursegirl6572]

Dear, it sounds like he has a drinking problem.  Even if he doesn't, it IS a problem.  A person with a family at home has no business being out partying 3-4 times a week.  That's totally selfish and unacceptable behavior.

I think it's time to make some tough decisions, you have to put you and the kids first.

Very best to you, hon.

[danbaby88]

he doesnt get up thru the night.. i do that all.. he only started having him a month back as i fell out with my mil who was having the baby.. yeah i do speak to him.. he always says its us he wants and nothing else but then as soon as he's had a drink its back to all the stupidness and being selfish.. he has cut back drinking but its getting a joke again where hes out drinkin 3 maybe 4 times a week.. im just drained with it all..

[Londres70]

There would be NO discussion.....he would be OUT (if it were me)  

NO abuse should be tolerated along with this other ridiculousness.  

[specialmom]

Hello, welcome to the forum.  So sorry to hear this.  Frankly, I'd be mighty angry as well.  If tonight were just a 'night' rather than a pattern of not being a great partner, then you could maybe blow it off.  But, it sounds much deeper than that.  Now, I do think that roles have changed and now sometimes the dad stays home and takes care of the kids.  I am an at home mom and luckily, my husband cut me slack when I spent the day deep in kid play or kid vomit or whatever the day brought me and neglected my household chores. BUT, big but here . . .   I was up at night with the kids (we had a baby that didn't sleep through the night until 16 months!), had a baby and a toddler---  kids that are 15 months apart in age, and really preferred to have a clean, organized house but just was exhausted.  I did the best I could but if the house was a mess when he got home---  he'd say "wow.  you must have had a busy day with the kids."  rather than be upset about it.  Love him for that.

But I don't think this is what you are talking about.  He's not trying very hard to be a partner.  He's not bending over backwards so that he is tired from his effort.   THEN, you mention things like verbal abuse, aggressive behavior and major inconsiderate actions such as bring buds home drunk and waking the house!

yeah, I'd be livid. I think that maybe in two days (cool off tomorrow)---  have a heart to heart with him that this situation doesn't seem like it is working. Then spell out your expectations.  If he can't live up to them, then going your seperate ways may be best for all.  But, you DO need to keep him involved in  your son's life.  good luck

[danbaby88]

and its 2am here!!!! hes gonna be kicking off tomo when i get up early with kids ahhh