so upset

[babymama1515]

My family wont help me out at all

[AAVs_mommy]

My question is if you had such a tough upbringing why would you want those ppl in your child's life?! I wouldnt give them the satisfaction of getting to be around me or my child.

[Sarahdawn1990]

If you need support, you can always message me. My husband and I raise our family on our own, family does not help. Our children, our resposibliblty. I do understand your family not being there for you though, it stinks. Even just to have someone to vent to or a date night babysitter. My family has nothing to do with my children. I don't like it at all. My oldest is constantly asking me when she can see her gma again and she's practically disowned us so I have to just idk baby. Breaks my heart. Don't let people get to you and like I said, if you need anything message me. I'm sorry your going through this.

[Mama6hijos]

Parents don't always love and support their children, a very unfortunate and selfish truth!! Now, that should you a million dang reasons to get your life together, so that you can offer your child what you are missing in your life. Painful situation, yes I know!! But you have to grow up!! At 19, your young but no longer a child. My mother and father were never there, I was a foster child. Left abandoned, beaten and crucially dying within!! But I found the strength and a damn good husband, to stop suffering, stop feeling sorry for myself and got my crap together!!

[babymama1515]

I just want my parents love and support like they could ask me if im ok is the baby healthy but they don't

[knufrio]

You have a husband and a baby... They are your family now. That's all you need.

[R4ch4el88]

This is why i waited for the right time, done school college and now myself and my partner has fantastic jobs with good pay we have our own family home with a big garden were in no debt n were well off, I've done with my holidays lived my life first n i thought it's someone else's turn, I'm now 26 and pregnant with my first, hope everything goes ok for you, my sisters were young n i helped them out as much as i could, that's wa families are there for as a support system for each other

[babymama1515]

I just wanted there love not money

[pixal_ember]

your the one who chose to get pregnant, it's your responsibility to take care of your kid. yea, it's good to have support and help from family, but it doesn't always turn out that way. your best bet would be to check out places in your area that help out with stuff like that. plus, you can always try yard sales. even if it's used, that's still better than nothing.

[OctoberBaby5]

Im sorry you went trough all that momma but it is completely irrelevant, I was left my dad at age 1 and my mom at age 5.. I ran into my dad years later an he literally fled the country to avoid me and my brother and sister so I know it ***** to not have family support but I kinda do agree, if they have never been there, why do you expect for them to be there now? and im sure your family background has nothing to do with you getting pregnant.. but like I said I can also understand you wanting that support.. the way I see it is I got myself into this so I make it work for myself, I wouldn't wanna have my family tell me theyll be supportive and then let me down anyway

[babymama1515]

I was left at 13 to live with my grandma in indy at age 14 went to foster care I was raped at age 12 and 16 I haven't seen my parents in 6 years and im now 19 so dont bash me

[gabiota1217]

I'm 16 my family won't help me I live a lone woth the father and been succeeding my baby has everything already I have to pay rent, buy the baby stuff it's not easy but if it responsible and ready u can do it trust me  

[OctoberBaby5]

Babymama1515 you can message me if you want, I can provide moral support :)

[AngelosMommy22]

Oh and try and get some aid or something they help you with jobs and school and help with getting you a place of your own. WIC program is great also helped me a lot.

[AngelosMommy22]

Thats a hard thing to go through I understand where your coming from. As your family they should be there for you if not then that's just immature of them. yea it is your responsibility but even support is enough they don't have to pay for everything but the fact that they are there by your side means a lot more than money. When I got pregnant with my first my father was very upset but when the baby came and he met my son for the first time everything changed. Hopefully once your baby arrives things will get better for you. Best of luck sweetie! And congratulations!

[autumnsexpecting]

If that's the case why do you expect them to be their now??

[babymama1515]

My family has abandoned Me sents I was 13

[Schmalzy]

Aww I'm sorry that they won't help you out.  Baby's Are very expensive. My family helps me out alot.  My sister Gave me pretty much everything I need because she is done having kids now and I really appreciated it.  My mom spoils my baby as well. Maybe if your going to have a baby shower..A bunch of people can pitch in to help you buy a car seat.   Or maybe someone can lend you money and you can pay them back.  Hope things get better for you.    

[OctoberBaby5]

No one is really being rude they're just not telling you what you wanna hear.. we cant really sit here and be like oh my gosh im sorry or thats so unfair or anything.. like I've said before its always nice to have family support fanincialy or just morally but if you dont get it you can't really get upset bc they didn't get you pregnant.

[bsconcerned]

I really don't understand why you feel like they should or would help you. And even though most times family do help (when they can) I'm sure there is a reason they arnt.

[irinasmb]

I'm not understanding either?  What are they supposed to help with?

[1NAMILLION]

Congratulations on the baby.  Let me soften what I'm about to say by saying that I don't want to be rude but you need to be aware that it is a really bad idea to assume that anyone is obligated to help you with anything whether it be the state or your family. You will be really disappointed in life if you think that people or your family should feel a sense of empathy to help you out. It is definitely a well known fact that noone wants to help anyone that anticipates that they should be helped.  Your baby is your responsibility and anything that anyone does for you or the baby is an extraordinary blessing that didn't have to be. If nothing else, as a parent you will have to regroup and realize that going forward you shouldn't ask for or anticipate anything. I totally understand living on tight funds but there are different alternatives to get what you need..i.e. craigslist free section,  thrift stores, donation sites and layaway. I don't want to kick you while you're in a crunch but this is where parents learn to "make a meal out of crumbs" . I wish you the best and I hope things get better.

[inlovewithmybaby]

In pregnant at 19 & my family also won't help the only thing they said they will provide is a roof over my head.the baby daddy ran out on me & actually moved states away. I have to work my *** off for this baby I'm enrolled to hair school & finding a job. You can do it be strong..

[nonishy]

You need to be more specific next time...Contact your county, contact welfare, and contact wic, they should have information where you can go and take this class for 4 hrs, and get a free car seat and free diaper bag...and they even show you how to install it. They offer it everywhere.  You don't need to be on welfare or wic to attend this class. But they basically know about it more because most people who go to these are low income.

[River_Melody]

Try good will, or do the fb thing. There are groups out there just have to look for them.