still in love with babys father. what do i do?!

Question

So I'm 26 weeks and 3 days pregnant with a little boy, and I still am utterly and hopelessly in love with the father of my child. I got pregnant with him while we weren't together anymore. We've been broken up for a little over a year and went through a few month time span where we started getting together again with no intentions of actually being together in a relationship. Now I am pregnant and still only want him as I have for the past 2 years but I feel I'm my heart the feelings are not mutual. I have not told him how I fellt though everyone thinks I should. I feel as if if he did feel the same I would know and I don't feel any incling that he does. Anybody have anyodeas on how to cope?

seisha · Answer

Thank you. I do agree with you. I try to keep myself busy to not think about him but it's very difficult. I do think it will overwhelm him if I say anything and I don't want to take the risk of losing how much he is involved now. Thank you guys for your responses. I'm still trying to move on and hopefully one day I will.

Londres70 · Answer

"Now I am pregnant and still only want him as I have for the past 2 years but I feel I'm my heart the feelings are not mutual".......I will agree with you.

I wouldn't say anything and just let him be there for your child.   Telling him your true feelings now might overwhelm him.  Let him come to you IF he does decide he wants more.

The best way to cope is to stay busy getting ready for this baby and doing other activities you enjoy.  Surround yourself with good friends and family.

seisha · Answer

Yes he is very much involved thank god. I don't know if I could do it fully myself. He even plans to stay with me for a couple weeks after the baby is born to make sure I don't get overwhelmed and he wants to be able to wake up in the night so that I can sleep. Hes been taking classes too cause he's only 22 and this will he his first child and he didn't have his father around so he wants to make sure he is not like that. I asked a mutually guy friend of ours and he said I'll scare him away if I say anything

specialmom · Answer

Ya know, I think you should tell him too.  You face that he may reject you but then you know you did everything you could in terms of being with him again.  Does he have any involvement in the pregnancy?