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[lovinlyfe06]

Hi Im new to this,

I just have one question that I need help with, My hubby and I got married a couple months ago. The thing is we didnt tell anybody!!! I want to plan for a big wedding in about a year, but how do we tell our parents that we already tied the knot?!?!

[ConnieG]

This probably doesn't help you. But I know a couple who went to vegas and had their own wedding/honeymoon without anyone knowing.  Then when they were ready, they had a big wedding (because that's what their parents wanted but not what they wanted) and during the reception they had a slideshow of them growing up then getting together etc, they finished the slideshow with pics of their wedding in vegas and that's how they told everyone.
I thought it was cute, they got the small personal wedding they wanted and their parents got the big wedding they wanted.
Good luck! :)

[penswriter]

Keep separate bank accounts than.

[lovinlyfe06]

last night i talked to my dad (i havent told him yet) but he know i want to and he wants me to (marry him) but i guess the main problem of why he doesnt want me to is bcz my hubby has 2 other kids besides mine that he is afriad that the other baby mom will take money from me if she has filed for child support.

[specialmom]

Hm.  Well, really-------- I think the best thing to do is just fess up to your parents and his and tell them exactly what you said here.  You were afraid they'd be upset and disapprove due to past problems and you didn't want to deal with that or let them rain on your parade.  Then apologize profusely and tell them they will be the FIRST to know when you are expecting.  Eat crow basically . . . get it over with and move on.  good luck

[lovinlyfe06]

because around the time we did about a month before things were really rocky to the point where he was controlling and i was ready to leave and i cried to my parents and within the month we had talked and realized what we needed to change... I had talked to my parents to see if they will accept him again and my mom said yes but not to marry him. my dad it took some time, but now both of my parents accept him and realizes he is family now, we do family events together and from what my hubby tells me is that my dad wants us to get married...I want to tell them the truth im tried of hiding it, I just dont know how to tell them, or how to bring it up...

[specialmom]

Hm.  Tricky.  They might be a little hurt that you didn't tell them anything at the time.  I'd start with your mom and be ready to explain why you didn't tell them.  By the way, why didn't you?