trying to get your babydaddy to do the right thing

[october22_]

I've been dealing with this whole pregnancy alone . I'm 24 and a ftm ..my child's father is 29 and already has a child that he has no custody of . The mother is deceased and the grandmother has custody of the child. So you would think because he's not allowed to see the child that he would at least try to be the best father he can be to ours on the way.....WRONG. all he wants to do is sit outside all day do recreational drugs and drink. He's 29 who leith the mentality of a 17 year old.  I'm so depressed and hurt that I allowed this to happen to me . I sit home and cry every night because of this. Sorry ladies I kno it's not a question but I just needed to vent and some support that's all

[victoriamichelle1010]

Maybe he will come around. But if not, just know that you CAN do it on your own and that its for the best that way. you cant force someone to be in yours or the babies life and you know what? Its their loss. If he wants to drink and do drugs while he has a baby to support then hes not worth your time. He should know his priorities at that age and as long as you know yours thats all that matters. The baby just needs a loving home to come to, if hes not willing to be that loving father then you can find someone else who will treat the baby like their own! I wish you the best. And just be strong. The baby needs you♡

[paisleysept8]

Well I'm 19 and a ftm.. my bd is 27 and he completely abandoned us after I got pregnant. He's married but when we were dating he was so-called going thru a divorce.. which is dumb because thus was a planned pregnancy. I'm due in 2 weeks and he's Nothing for us at all but bash me and make me feel worthless. I asked him for help two weeks ago, he said he couldnt cause him and wife just bought a new car.. and that his money is both of their monly so he won't contribute until he gets a DNA test.