what do I do

[fbadga.david]

Im talking to this guy, and its hard to spend time with him when he's having bad times.  He want to distance himself.  I'm the person that like to be there for the person I'm involved with.  Also he can go a long time with out sex, me I can go a couple of weeks.  Lately we have been having a lot of promblem.  Am I woung for wanting to spend time with him, when he having hard time, what should I do about the sex thing.
I trust, and hope that there is no one else.


Any reply is welcome.  Thank you.

[anxiousmomtobe?]

He is just not that into you.  Cut your losses, and move on.  He may be a great friend in the future, but he is not mate material.

[fbadga.david]

thanks for your comment, happy new year

[fbadga.david]

I try to see the positive side, I don't know he tell me that he had a bad relationship before me.  I tell myself, maybe it will take a little time, because of that.

[PlateletGal]

Some people withdraw from other people who care about them. I'm not sure why, but I wouldn't be surprised if your boyfriend's past has a great deal to do with it. It sounds like he may still have some unresolved issues he needs to work on before he's 100% committed and available again.

[fbadga.david]

So do I waite, or do I go own with my life.  I feel that we have a lot to offer each other.  When I'm with him I feel complete, and I can tell he do to.  Only time I have problem is when he faces problems in his life.  I'm the opposite, when I down and out, its nice to see someone call or try to help me.  By the grace of God, I've haven't been there lately.  Maybe thats the problem it seems that I have every thing in line, and he feel that he's only in my way.  But its not the case at all, I have problems as well, but I deal with them differnt.  He just moved to altanta, from new york and things are a little differnt, he expect that it will to find a job that pays the same as new york.  In some ways I know its hard, paying the bills by yourself, but I help him when I can, without putting myself in harms way.

[PlateletGal]

Do you live in New York ? If so, a long distance relationship is very difficult to work out.

It sounds like you both may need some time apart, but only you & your boyfriend can answer that question. It really does sound like you are both going in two different directions though. It isn't a bad thing... and like the other poster said, perhaps you can remain friends. But only you can make that decision and decide what is best for you.